Relationships and AddictionWhether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, or anything else, addictions can be detrimental to the health of a relationship.
My husband has always loved porn, sex ect... ever since i met him he would download at least 6 porn movies a day... that isnt really a problem... my problem is our computer is in da living room n he feels dat as long as da kids r in bed it is ok to take care of his self... I feel dat at anytime da kids could come out of thr rooms for drinks bathroom n what not. Am I in da wrong For being upset dat he will stay up all nite to watch this n take care of him self? Many times I have offered n asked for sex n he says he isnt tired n not goin to bed yet. He wont have sex with me thn leave da room so i can sleep cuz he says dat he feels like he is suing me like dat. I dont feel dat way at all, i rather have our fun n go to bed n him not have to worry wakin me cuz he cant sleep.
I also have another problem... my husband asked me if we could consider being swingers... I considered it n decided i would try it... I happen to like it but not as much as he did. Everytime i would mention a friend of ours was coming over he would 1st ask if we were havin ne fun. I dont feel dat everytime a frnd comes over it shld result in sex. While we were swingers we also decided to try seperating, he wouldgo to a frnds house on call pretty much. he had done it 3x with 1 gurl n 1x with another, but i have never done it. I found out in January dat he was cheatin on me on n off for a yr, not with ne of the gurls i knew bout. I feel it was cheatin cuz i didnt know. Well I took him back n we decided we werent gonna swing agian until i was ready at all. Well stupid me I was ready, I was given permission by him to havce a 3 sum while he was gone for work. He he told me i owed him tho... I thought he ment a 3 sum w/ em w/ out me, a spoecail way of sex w/ me n so on. Come to find out he wanted to choose ne1 to have sex with. Well i threw in his face dat i dont feel i owe him since he cheated for a year n had 2 gursl with out me, while i had no1. Dat should be enough... RIGHT? Well, we made plans to have sum fun with da couple together, (he still feels i owe him). We had our fun n then we made plans to just go see em for a weekend without ne sex. while we were thr my husband decided to tell me dat he wanted a devorice, thne da nxt day he wanted to work it out. Then things were fine all day, we wnet home things still good. The next day he came home for lunch n wanted a trial seperation. We receantly tlked vrry well n he told me dat he is havin probs with commenment, he loves me but loves sex so mcuh he wants others. (he did not leave me because of ne sex reasons but cuz i have mood swings n controlling) What shld iI do? He is tlking bout coming home but he feels it is too soon. He dont tell me he loves me n shows affection on a normal bases now. Should i set ground rules of no more swinging n just stick with it? I do like it but seems to get us in trouble every time. PLzzzz help so much running through my nind.
can I ask how old are you. I find your post very hard to read I guess because I am in my thirties and prefer written english instead of Computer lingo (nothing wrong with it) but for me, I just can't follow what you wrote. Just a bit of advice. If you are going to write something lengthy, please write in proper english, most of us are to old to follow the text/computer lingo.
draconis....you are giving an old assembler programmer flashbacks now...when I was in college we actually had to write some programs in binary to appreciate the invention of computer languages, and after that course I did!
Ich fände es auch nett, wenn wir bei 'standard' Englisch bleiben könnten :P
But i'll give it a try:
Pretty:
In another post u said u been married 4 years dis week. Did u 2 celebrate? N u said dat u keep thinkin 'bout him n how happy u were 1s. Have u written him a letter or a txt or nething else? Sumtimes writin & not talkin is ezr.
u 2 need to focus on u n not on sex. Get urselves cleared up b4 u get others involved!
I learned how to program in 79. I never got into hexadecimal though. Some friends and I use to post to each other in binary for fun on a different forum. Glad to know others are out there.
see now I can understand if someone had to convert their native language to English, but being from MIchigan, that does not count, Canada doesn't either, eh?...LOL
Not a big deal just venting, I feel like an old fart at 38 on here. lol
Porn, n others?
Re: Porn, n others?
