J'Accused

I understand your doubts and like i said , I dont believe she was repulsed by me, if she was attracted to me it was because of my intelligence and status, that gut, physical alpha male attraction certainly was never there and she has admitted such to me, if she was looking at guys on a dating website Im sure I would not grab her attention, as she would say "your alright" a ringing endorsement
indeed. Her teenage obesity had planted the seed of an ideal physiology of a man and Im sure i didnt fit it, but nonetheless we did have 2 beautiful children. We did not have intimacy on our wedding night and only once on our honeymoon, intimacy was 99% of the time initiated by me. Oh yes your right on with her insecurity, but I never ever did anything to damage that even when her weight would flux during the marriage and i paid for her tummy tuck and breast lift, but she never sent a naked picture of herself to me. Where i am now is alone I have no family left, mostly deceased, and not many friends since I adopted her world and her friends, now they seem to gone to her side, I have my kids and that should be enough for now. We are separated, she is wrapped in rage and anger and will not speak to me as she has been advised by her whacko attorney, and I have taken ownership of my responsibility, I made mistakes, been imperfect, but I am an optimist I like to look back at the positives not the hurt, I would more than be willing to forget all past indiscretions, I think 2 people who want the same thing can make anything work, but one person cannot do it on their own no matter how much they want to, and thats where I stand

swedish

That's true. I will be completely honest, the thought of my husband posting naked pictures of me online would be extremely difficult for me to get over. You can't un-ring that bell & who knows how wide-spread these pictures go and if some day a friend, family member, child, employer sees them? I would be beyond upset.

What throws me off is that she willingly sent a stranger naked pictures and has asked you to post such pictures of her online in the past, so I am not sure what the thought process is there.

I saw that you do some running...have you considered joining a running club? Meet new people to run with? Just a thought on getting your own social life going so you don't feel so alone.

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J'Accused

well, this is the essence of a dysfunctional relationship, I believe my wife felt guilty because she didnt have those desires for me so she compensated by taking pictures and such. Shes not a bad person just confused and somewhat damaged, And she believed, I was over controlling and maybe sending out those pictures was a declaration of her being in control of herself, and she blames me for having to make her choices.

I am starting to develop a life that doesnt include her, but its a process and its a long one, the only problem is trying to heal in the backdrop of a very vicous divorce proceeding

jameskimp

Definitely not. He should of at least asked you first

J'Accused

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