Re: Married to Maybe the Most Functional Alcoholic Ever, and Ready to Walk
I don't know if I would rush into marriage counseling. My husband rushed me into it, and although the counselor has really helped in getting my husband to control his temper, I did not have enough time to work on myself. I was rushed into trying to work on the relationship with a man who was "cutting down". (And then falling back into old habits, and hiding his booze). I really liked this counselor, and now I cannot go back to IC with him. If you are enjoying your time alone, I would carry on alone and keep getting IC. If he is having three drinks with dinner, he just doesn't get it. If you are seeing him just because you feel bad, maybe you should tell him you need some time alone to process things, and he needs some time alone to work on himself. You have lived with a man and his alcoholism for a long time, (as have I). It sucks all the love, respect, and affection right out of you. My husband doesn't "get it" either. I know one thing, there is no hope of rekindling anything until he does. Even then I don't know if there is any hope.