08-11-2010, 09:31 PM
Join Date: Jul 2010
| | Re: Giving up, I can't help him. Want him out!
Originally Posted by Stuie
I went down the same path he's on. The only way he is going to change is when HE wants to change. You cannot not force it. So getting him out is probably your best option, especially if he is becoming abusive.
Not sure exactly what you mean by "treated horribly", but if it rises to the level of abuse, your best bet is to get a Domestic Violence Protective Order against him. I know this seems severe, but it was the wake-up call I needed to get sober.
I'll assume 99508 is your zip code and point you to this resource: WomensLaw.org | Alaska: Domestic Violence Protective Orders
Oh my. I'm so sorry to have mislead you. My husband has never laid a hand on me, ever. Never ever. At least not in a violent way.
But he has/had become neglectful of me. He is trying now to be more civil but we are still separating. Basically he just began ignoring me. I would CONSTANTLY get one word answers. He treated me like I was garbage, that he didn't want anymore. However, we've decided to try and end our marriage in a good light, and be nice and pleasant with each other. Arguing only makes us unhappy. He is leaving me though, not the other way around. So we're both on the same page. I would love to try and make our marriage work, but you're right he has to work out his issues in his own way and on his own. I am deeply saddened but I'm hoping that by setting him free... he will come back to me. If he doesn't then so be it. I've resigned to the fact that if someone doesn't want to be with me respectfully, then I don't want to be with them either. His drinking will bother me until the end of time. That's no way to live your life or be apart of mine. So what's done is done, and we'll move on together... in a new way... as best friends who were once married. Luckily there are no children involved.