08-20-2010, 01:46 PM
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: New Braunfels, Tx
| | Re: What do I do now?
Originally Posted by pk1234
Now I feel a bit upset about this. At the end of the day I need her support to get through this. She has known about the gambling for a while and it isn't new news to her. I think her parents are trying to turn her against me.
I don't know what to do now, but I don't want to loose her..
You have no leg to stand on to be upset with her. She was wrong in enabling you, yes. But you have no reason to be angry with her. The person who the blame needs to be placed fully on is you pk1234, not her. You were the one gambling, you were the one asking her to hide it. She tried to help you live the lie, and you got caught with your hand in the cookie jar.
If you don't want to loose her, get back into GA and get therapy. It would also help your wife to get into something for family members of Gambling Addicts (like ALANON) but for gamblers. She needs to learn how to not enable you and help feed your crippling addiction.
And that whole emotional blackmail? It's gotta stop, there is no need for that kind of garbage in a relationship.
As a parent, I could see why her parents don't want their daughter anywhere near you. I know if I was in their shoes, i'd be the same way. Your going to have to turn your life around and keep it that way to earn back their trust. It won't be fast, it won't be easy, but it can be done.