02-20-2011, 04:08 PM
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: SE USA
| | Is It Possible....?
This is the first time I have posted in this section but I figure its the best one.....
A little bit of history here....
My SO and I have been living together for almost 3 years now. When we moved in together he moved to my hometown from about 2 hours away. Sometimes he goes on drinking binges and doesnt come home until the next day. He owns his own business that has been run out of our home and until recently, I was doing most of the office portion of the work due to being unemployed for the past 2 years.
On to the problem/ question..... I finally found a job and was due to start the Monday after superbowl. On superbowl Sunday, my daughter and I were out visiting my family, he was home doing work..... he called me on my cell and told me he was going to the bar/ resturant where we sometimes hang out. When I was on my way home I called him and he was still at the bar so we decided we would meet there for a bit. No big deal, ate some wings, shot some darts, etc. It was time for me to run my daughter home so I left, he said he was going to stay for about 30 min.... we figured that would put us home right about the same time.
I got home and he wasnt there, I waited about 45 min and then tried to call him... he tells me he is going to "so and so's" house.... this person lives in his old town!!! 2 hours away! I told him no, he needed to come home, I had to get to bed to start my new job the next day.... Didnt hear another word. I got up the next morning and hes still not home. Tried calling on my lunch hour, nothing. Sometime in the afternoon I get a text from him saying that hes an alcaholic and a druggie and needs help. (WHOA! SLOW DOWN, DRUGGIE? SOMETHING I DONT KNOW!) Finally got him when I was on my way home and he says he is going to be home in about an hour. It takes me about 40 min to drive home so i figured he would get there right after me..... 2 hours later hes walking in the door.
I asked him about the text and he tells me that when he has pulled the " all nighters" (he always goes back to his old town) that not only is he drinking (ALOT by the way) that he is also doing coke.
Talk about stunning!!! I had NO CLUE! Not a thing to even make me suspect!!!
Sometimes these binges are once a week for 2 weeks and then not again for months.
My question is this..... Is it really possible that the only time he is using coke is when hes been drinking like this? Is it possible not to be what I would consider an addict?
Someone please help.... I have no clue what im doing here and really dont even know what to think. Its been 2 weeks now and im still stunned, not to mention having a hard time not questioning every move he makes or even every word out of his mouth....