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post #46 of 50 (permalink) Old 11-13-2014, 06:25 PM
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Re: My Porn Addiction is back

I'm sorry but could somebody give me a clear definition of what Porn Addiction is ????

The brain can be deceived and can misread signs and can at times be wrong.The heart doesn't care about facts and is frequently wrong.The "little head" is almost always wrong.

But the gut is very very rarely ever wrong.
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post #47 of 50 (permalink) Old 11-13-2014, 07:38 PM
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Just did a quick recap of this thread.

Since two of you showed interest in the Trauma book, I should point out that there's little or no reference to sex abuse, but it's the best I've ever read for explaining what I described before - the need to make sense of things,, fill in the missing pieces,,, no injury necessary.


Example - There's a lot about the PanAm Lockerbie crash. As you'd expect, experienced mountain rescue teams and other units were drafted in. Guys experienced in finding broken bodies. What traumatised many of them was NOT finding what they expected. They found people naked and clothed lying in the fields like they were peacefully sleeping. They couldn't compute a 6 mile drop, lack of visible injuries and naked/clothed,,, especially after preparing themselves to find 'bits'. Tempting to think they'd be happy to not find 'bits', but therein lies the complexities of PTSD. False predisposition, confusion at the unexpected, failure to achieve goals (rescue). Then, remember it's Post TSD, not Current TSD. They didn't know the seeds of trauma had been sewn. Just got on with their tasks (and collecting more baffling images). Later come the flashbacks of the 'sleeping' people. The sleepless nights. Rowing with their spouses. Only much later when they start seeking help and a team is set up to find all the rescuers do they discover dozens of them are affected.

So,, no physical injury necessary. Something you can't make sense of in the moment is all it takes. A fascinating read.
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My "addiction" might be more of a compulsion, I don't know.

It is something that I do not want to do. I am disgusted by prostitution and that is all porn is, paying a prostitute to get drilled on camera.

I sometimes feel agitated if I don't cave and view it and I don't sleep well and wake up feeling nervous and sometimes sick when I do view porn.

An addiction makes you feel crappy if you don't do it and crappy in another way if you do.
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But in the mean time, I sit here, reading on an Internet forum full of people who look down on people like me for saying porn is harmful to us. I need to lighten up, allow him to do it because it's "harmless" and I'm a prude.
So much of what you wrote is exactly what I am going through and what I've seen experienced by many other women. I think porn is like many other things. It can be (relatively) harmless if used occasionally, but some become addicted or obsessed with it to the point where relationships suffer. I could and have never given it a clean pass because of how degrading it is to women (what if it was YOUR daughter?), but not everyone gets hooked on it.

I hope this works out for you. You deserve to be happy.
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I'd recommend an inexpensive support group like Sexaholics Anonymous or Incest Survivors or Sex and Love addicts anonymous or some similar support group where you will learn how to examine and live your life in a better way.
good luck

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