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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 08-11-2011, 07:58 AM
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Re: My Husbands Drinking is ruining our marriage. I'm fed up.

Originally Posted by Engneer View Post
What I don't get is why the change. He's being the guy he's always been and you married him this way. You are the one that's changed.
She's grown up, matured. He hasn't. And I don't mean for this to sound all haughty or condescending. This is what has changed - she wants to move into a different stage of her life that he doesn't seem ready for (whatever it may be).

It's not wrong for her to want him to stop drinking to the extent that he is.

As my wife told me, "I deserve a husband at home, not drunk, 7 days a week. Not 6, not 5, not 2 or 3 nights passed out by 7pm. This is not too little to ask."

Harsh words . . . nothing for me to argue.

And he married her, not his drinking buddies.

Resp123 - I've posted a couple other things on here about my perspective on this (the drunken husband). If you want to read them and come back to me, please feel free to do so - PM or on the thread. I suspect he doesn't really know how his drinking is impacting you / him / your marriage. At least this was the case with me.
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My husband has been an alcoholic since he was nine years old, according to him. We've been married for 23years, and together for 25. My father was a major alcoholic, but was basicly absent from my childhood since the age of 6, so what does this say about me? I have major depression, I quit my career of 15 years, and now I'm completely dependent on him, he's become controlling, and I don't even have access to our bank account, HELP!!! I so need a way out!!!
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Re: My Husbands Drinking is ruining our marriage. I'm fed up.

I feel your pain...set strong boundaries, and go to the bar also...he will get grumpy at first but say to him if he's not home in an hour you are going to go to bar also and sit there until he comes home...I did this to my alcoholic husband of 16 years and it has worked so far for me, instead of him spending hours at the pub, he will only be there for 1 hour max..blessings to you
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