Re: My Husbands Drinking is ruining our marriage. I'm fed up.
Thanks to everyone who posted all of the helpful comments. Alanon seems like a good thing to try for myself. My H & I had a long talk the other day about his drinking & that I wasn't going to tolerate it, & he agreed with me, but that's nothing new because he always agrees with me, then goes right back out & does it again. I've threatened to leave before but never have & I think he thinks I'm just saying that.
He refuses to go to counseling, says he can control it on his own, which I know he can't. I love my husband. When times were good we were really good together, but the bad times far outweigh the good. I'm only 33 years old & I refuse to live the rest of my life this way. I want so much more out of life, & I'm afraid of waking up one day & regretting staying with someone like this. I wholeheartedly believe in trying everything to make a marriage work. That's why I've stayed this long. I've put alot of blood, sweat, & tears into this relationship & I've gotten nowhere. I simply am tired of the fight.
All of his friends tell him I'm the one that's wrong, but of course, they are all drinkers too. Some of my friends tell me to bite my tongue & live with it if I don't want to be alone, but they are married to alcoholics also & put up with it. I don't believe I'm wrong.
Anyhow, thanks again for the advice! We'll see what happens.