Re: My wife is consumed by her AA group
I'm not saying that some things don't add up and don't need to be addressed. Not at all! Four hours away from home to go to a one hour meeting, the no sex for six months, constant texting with the sponsee, and sleeping in seperate beds needs to be addressed. The point of contention with me was I don't think going to three meetings a week and having two sponsees at two years sober is trading one addiction for another.
I,myself, go to three meeting a week. I'm only gone for an hour and a half when I do go. I also have three sponsees. I don't hear from two of them on a regular basis,and the other calls mabye three times a week for about 10 minutes at a time. I try to schedule everything around my family as much as I can, but it can be difficult at times. I think if I were going to church 3 times a week, no one would bat an eyelash, especially in the Bible belt where I live. :-)
Also I really think the OP would really benefit reading some books on codependency and the alanon program. His posts reek of codependency. Removing all triggers and making life as easy as possible for the recovering person is completely unnecessary and impossible. Alcohol is sold in almost every gas station and grocery store in the country. We learn to deal with that stuff rather quickly. The best thing a person can do to support a recovering spouse is to get healthy themselves and let them work their program. (Within reason of course)