Relationships and AddictionWhether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, or anything else, addictions can be detrimental to the health of a relationship.
try coming home & act interested in what he is looking at & get him to show you the guys with the biggest schlongs...see how he likes it if you are interested...may scare him right of the site, he won't know what to think. let him catch you looking alone.
personally i like looking at porn & don't care if my significant other does, i enjoy looking at it together. usually gets me in the mood. i blame it on i am a scorpio.
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You have a point Drac - except that no one gets exploited in the making of the stories, nor does any money change hands - I read the free ones on the web.
well I used to think that porn was not a big deal until I crossed the line with my wife. She never was real into it but did because she wanted to please me. We watched a little, read playboy and had a couple toys. Things seemed to be ok until I pushed the envelope it eventually moved into swinging. Now I don't know if it was a normal progression or just that I became weak enough to allow it to enter out marriage and led to a pending divorce. We are both adults and made out decision but I still do and will always hold myself accountable for the destruction of a 11yr relationship, 8yr marriage with 2 children. All I know is that I allowed it to control me and now I refuse to look, engage in the conversation with friends or co-workers about having fun with porn. I never thought I was weak minded enough to allow things to get out of control. Porn a very slippery slope in my opinion
It's not so much the porn itself as I myself have enjoyed porn in the past. It is the fact that your partner chooses porn over you. My husband cut our sex life down to barely a trickle thanks to porn. I now hate what I once enjoyed and I never get sex. I am a good looking twenty-six year old who is going to go friggin' nuts because of this issue. Cheating or divorce seem like the only solutions at this point as I do not want to ruin my children's lives because he's a selfish a-hole.
I think it goes either way. If porn takes over your life then it's a bad thing. If you would rather watch a movie and do 'it' yourself, then it's a problem. I'm in a situation right now having to do with porn. My wife is strictly against it when it come to me using it as a visual thing for myself, but on the other hand, we've used it in our own bedroom numerous times, we've made our own movies (which I prefer over anything else), she's been known to sent little clips of herself to me on my phone, she frequents the local strip club (female by the way) FAR more than I do, and she has no problem with the idea of our two daughters becoming strippers to pay for say college of something. I, as a father, seriously wish for this to NOT happen. I'm in a seriously confused place myself right now... To me if porn is used occationally and doesn't affect the sexual relationship of two partners, then it's ok.
In my personal opinion there isn't a good and bad side to porn. Those whose relationships have been hurt through porn know first hand how destructive porn can be at times. Everybody else is either hiding their porn or they're in a relationship from which they don'y have to hide it.
Porn is fundamentally sin. Because we are sinful by nature, we are all OK with some sin. Our pet sin may vary from lying about something to using profanity casually but for some of us porn is our pet sin because of the sexual gratification it brings. Sexual attraction, physical and visual stimulation and physical climax are all a part of our nature and physical makeup by God's creative design. Sexual activity is governed by God as well. (Forgive me for not using scriptural references, I would like to speak plainly to keep from sounding preachy)God established boundaries that limited the marriage bed (sex) to husband and wife. Simply put, husband and wife in - all others out. Through porn, whether it be by film, pictures, or forum we are allowing people other than our spouses access to a part of us that should belong to no one else but our spouse. I realize that there are couples that enjoy watching porn together. I applaud your willingness to meet the sexual needs of your spouse. However, I would also like to warn you that the search for that "extra something" that seems to be missing may lead to an addiction for one of you and or lure you out of fellowship with God. Share your heart only with God and the one you love!
The Christian bible says that eating shellfish is a sin as well... so clearly watching porn is about as bad as eating shrimp. Right?
Read Acts.
I'm learning a lot of the sexual side of marriage from this forum. It seems by setting up my own walls of what is acceptable - I've almost killed my marriage.
This certainly is not what God intends.
The only possible Bible verse that applies is where Jesus says adultery includes looking at a woman with lust in your heart.
Does this include a man lusting after his own wife? I think not.
Porn is not sinful. My wife seems to be turned on by porn based on what she's told me of her affair and I intend to ask her about using it for our relationship. I will be looking at porn and lusting in my heart AFTER MY OWN WIFE.
I only want to have sex with my wife. So it's easy for me not to commit that particular sin. Porn or not.
We're such sexual prudes in this country it has been destructive to relationships.
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let him catch you looking alone. 
usually gets me in the mood. i blame it on i am a scorpio. 
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