Re: Marijuana use after Marriage
My husband is a pot smoker, it's his way of coping with his ADHD, his tempers, his constant need to find entertainment above and beyond, and the list goes on. It seriously calms my H down and he does not do it for entertainment.
With all that said, I was like you, I did not want it in my home, my backyard, around my kids, etc., etc., etc... It is illegal, we have nosy neighbors, much like you. My husband would pick fights so he could leave and go smoke it, he would sneak money (10 here, 20 there), he would lie about smoking or being high... His brother at the time lived with us and they fed off one another. I even threatened to call the cops on my H if I knew he had it in his possession.
Fast forward several months, I calmed down, I began to open my eyes, read a lot about the medicinal benefits, etc. I began to appreciate the effects pot has on my H actually. We have a different set of ground rules now... And as unfortunate as it may sound, I now prefer my H smoke. We use to fight everyday, even when we were in counseling, but since this revelation and my understanding that perhaps my H needs it to function, our house is calm.
I don't know if any of this helps, but this is just what happened in our house and I feel like once I readjusted my boundaries, it became peaceful.
His friends can not come over to hang out and get high, hell no, he cannot go hang at their house to get high, he cannot drive the kids around if he is high, he does not go to work high, or smoke on the job, he is not lazy when high, he actually mows the yard, cleans the fish tank, washes clothes, scrubs the floor... and the list goes on.
I was so tired of battling him on this.... I had to read everything I could find on pot and I made a decision based on what I found. Good luck in your decisions and your marriage!