Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Away and beyond in a hot place
Had a great weekend last week with the other half. He is having a dry January (though not completely drank the once I knew off - a few pints).
Last night going he infomed me he was going for dinner with client, told me location and time he would be home, i.e. 10am. i go to bed by 10.30 as had an early morning flight out of town. Woke up at 12 midnight, he still wasn't home, called him, he was quite high (they, 3 of them had drank a lot of wine) and said he would be home soon, just leaving.
I was pissed off, went back to bed. He woke me this morning - so I wouldn't miss my flight, though I have ever needed him to wake me up. I know he is out with his friends tonight for a party (and it is still January). I am at my wits end because there is no respect for me at all. I told him so in a note I left him, told him to think about whether he wanted a single life or not because he couldn't have both. I also told him I want a divorce. I also text him why I am upset and his responses were 'enjoy yourself' 'have a good time' all passive aggressive BS. I called him and he yelled at me what was my problem, I could text him at 10pm, he would have responded. Now it is my fault, and I am the unreasonable crazy b****!
I am not yet in a financial position to leave. Just started working full time this month. I feel so frustrated, any love i have for him is slowly ebbing away, he is a POS and I do not deserve to be treated this way. Can anyone advise me how I act in the house when I go back on Sunday. I want to cut him out of my life, move out of the bedroom and pretend he doesn't exist. I hate him for what he does to me. It is my fault because I never set boundaries for all these years, now I want to set boundaries because i have nothing to lose and this is what happens. This marriage is killing me. i know I can do the 180 and go from there.