Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: My side of the street
Re: Steroids have ruined my marriage
Well, I'm certainly not going to tell you that you're a douche, because you're doing a great job beating up on yourself already. To begin with, you can't beg, plead, or barter for your wife to want you back. Just like she couldn't control your addiction, you can't control her choices.
Just a suggestion: get yourself, ASAP, into a 12-step program; perhaps Nar-Anon or A.A. Either way, start working a program FOR YOU. Ultimately, you can only control your own behaviors.
I was married to a hard-core alcoholic, and I got to the point that I hated what he morphed into. I missed the man I married, but he was long gone. I left and I've never gone back.
You can't get straight to save a marriage or to win back your wife. You have to go into it wanting to do it for yourself, regardless of the outcome.
Get into a program, and seriously consider IC too. Ask your wife to give it one year. Let her see your ACTIONS, not just your words. That is the criteria that will ultimately help her in making a decision. If she doesn't want you back, then stay straight for your kids, because they need their dad.
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.