Re: Wife's Serious Weight Problem
This sounds just like an alcoholic. 15 years ago she was a lot younger and her body better able to take the abuse. Time is going to catch her up very soon.
She needs to see someone of authority -- a doctor -- who will tell her if she doesn't do something soon she is going to die. Diabetes is going to come knocking very soon if it hasn't already. Get her checked out for anything more serious as I already posted.
YOU need to stop enabling her. Draw your line in the sand down and refuse to tolerate her addiction. So what she whinges? Would you rather she die? What is the worst thing that happens, she divorces you?
My H and I gained some weight from a really stressful period of our careers over a period of a couple of years. 12-14 hour work days, lots of dinners, booze, travel, not enough exercise... it's remarkably easy to put on 10 lbs a year. Finally, after 30 lbs I put my foot down. Vanity and fear for our health kicked in. I reminded us about WHY we work so hard -- a beautiful retirement -- that we wouldn't enjoy if we destroyed our health to build our wealth.
I insisted on a trainer, I threw out the junk food (multiple times), kept healthy snacks immediately available in the fridge, insisted we drink sparkling water at events. One glass of red wine at dinner on a weekend if we were out or entertaining. I pushed my H to exercise harder than he was, b/c I knew he could do more. We are in a much healthier place today, but it was a LOT of work. We did it together.
Doctors can help to inform her about the seriousness of her behaviour but they can't make her change. Consider taking a couple weeks to go visit a "health retreat" that will restrict her diet and be more active with medical supervision.