the spouse of an alcoholic
My husband and I have been married for a little over a year, and we have a 3 month old baby. He had problems with alcohol since before we even met, i didnīt know the gravity of this until the first time i actually saw him drunk, last night. when we had conversations about alcohol before getting married he explained that he used to have an alcohol problem, he used to excuse this with being lonely and away from family and friends and since i donīt drink myself it was hard to imagine how hard it is for my husband not to drink. I for the most part was afraid of his reaction if i told him not to drink, i did not want to give him the idea that i am crossing bounderies about what he can and canīt do. He has been to rehab, and for the most part has refused to go to aa meetings. the truth is that he lies to himself saying that he can drink when he canīt. Last night he went out with a very problematic friend who is cought up on all kinds of drugs and alcohol abuse, pot grower , i donīt think my husband is innocent, i know he wanted to go out with this friend because he wouldnīt say no to consuming alcohol so they use each other to drink, my husband havent drink in a long time and for the most part that we have been married is the first time that this happens. I was very upset last night and tried to have him take a shower , after he came home he didnīt layed in the bed with me , he sneaked to the couch so i wouldnīt notice , this morning all he could say is sorry and he admited that he is an alcoholic and that he should not drink at all, but this isnīt the first time he says so and then tries to convince me that he is okay drinking only in "special " ocassions .
I have very little experiences about alcohol so i donīt really know what to do or how to get guidance in this matter. I wanīt to help him but i know it is more complicated than that.