Re: Tough Love
Self medicating with addiction is a symptom of another disease.
Why is my dad an addict? Because he chooses to be.
His mother was a very cold, bitter and violent mother. On top of that self depreciation and self blame for his brother's death (brain cancer, a few years before the diagnosis he and his brother were in the bush and his brother ended up with a purely accidental blow to the head that caused severe closed head trauma - the brain cancer was never my father's fault).
He chooses it. My brother in law...he chose to replace a drug addiction with alcoholism.
He has lost his license, his vehicle was impounded, he has numerous infractions and charges and fines. He lost his job, nearly lost his wife and two children. Isn't even allowed to sit in a driver's seat to turn on the radio (must sit in passenger seat to do it, part of his conditions).
Yet, he continues to choose to drink. I believe he is self medicating for emotional trauma in childhood (have it on good word from another family member there was some hefty child sexual and physical abuse that they all grew up with).
Now, I'm a child sexual assault survivor. I don't drink (at all), don't do drugs, don't party...two very extreme ends of the spectrum of dealing with trauma. It's a choice to self medicate.
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