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post #61 of 78 (permalink) Old 09-12-2016, 08:42 AM
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Re: Dating a girl with a Weed addiction.

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The actions of THC result from its partial agonist activity at the cannabinoid receptor CB1 (Ki=10nM[24]), located mainly in the central nervous system, and the CB2 receptor (Ki=24nM[24]), mainly expressed in cells of the immune system.[25] The psychoactive effects of THC are primarily mediated by its activation of CB1G-protein coupled receptors, which result in a decrease in the concentration of the second messenger molecule cAMP through inhibition of adenylate cyclase.[26]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tetrahydrocannabinol

Yes there is a lethal dose, but it is high and pretty much needs to be injected. You'd asphyxiate from the smoke level or vomit/full before you reached the level in normal usage.

Interest to see that endocannabinoids are confirmed, so there is likely to be some health effects of constant exposure adaption but just how significant would have to be tested, like wise there is definite confirmation of antioxidant properties.
Yes, it affects the CNS, but where does it say that it is a CNS depressant? I can't find it on that page.

Also from that page:

"The estimated lethal dose of intravenous dronabinol in humans is 30 mg/kg,.[21] The typical medicinal dosage administered is two 2.5 mg capsules daily for an 80 kg man (~170 lb). A lethal dose for such a person would be approximately 960 of those capsules infused intravenously. "

However, dronabinol is one of the compounds in cannabis, not cannabis itself: "Dronabinol is the INN for a pure isomer of THC, (–)-trans-Δ9-tetrahydrocannabinol,[13] which is the main isomer found in cannabis."

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"There has never been a documented human fatality solely from overdosing on tetrahydrocannabinol."

So unless you are shooting up enormous quantities of dronabinol I don't think you have to worry about overdosing.

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Hey, man, I agree that pot should be legal. But leave my whisky alone. True, potheads may not beat their wives. But I will beat you if I can't get a drink tomorrow. LOL
Well as a recovering alcoholic/teetotaler I would want none of you to have any booze simply because I cannot participate... I'm a selfish fvck.....
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Well as a recovering alcoholic/teetotaler I would want none of you to have any booze simply because I cannot participate... I'm a selfish fvck.....


You are an embarrassment to selfishness.

Someone I know very well just went over 30 years sober.

He has no problem being around drinkers or in a bar. He remembers how miserable he felt and gets off on the misery of over drinkers.

He also participates in AA and the liars who show up and he knows aren't ready keep him sober.

When I need a sponsor Steve will be him!

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Ok so we spoke about it this weekend a bit. She started smoking heavily when her mom passed away 15 years ago (from cancer at 53).

She says she needs to cut down but I don't see it happening. Its at the point where she need sto smoke this more in order to get high and shes has built a tolerance to it.

She does have a job, pays for her own weed every week. I don't contribute to hers. I do by my own ($40 every other week)

She at about $100 a week.

Does have an addictive personality for sure. Is a reformed shop-a-holic and also smokes cigs.

Again, the smoking doest bother me. The lack of ambition does. What I mean by that is, she has no desire to go out and do things. Make plans with friends. Initiate conversations (or texts or phone calls, its always me)

This is WHO SHE IS though and its not going to change.

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Abusers abuse because they are sick people, with or without a drug.
I completely agree.

on a side note:
it's actually quite common for relational abusers to be alcoholics/potheads/drug addicts. it's a scapegoat to blame.
"Oh, i don't hit you when i'm me, only when i'm out of my mind because i couldn't find any weed or because i was drunk/high/both"
Recently, stbx mr.68 has quit and is getting ready to take a drug test so that he can get unsupervised visitation. And he acts like i'm going to go running back because the weed was to blame and now it's gone. which is a joke.

anyway, didn't mean to thread jack.
But those all or nothing words like always or never, have exceptions. and in this case, it's me.

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This is WHO SHE IS though and its not going to change.
That's baloney, people can and do change all the time.

The rule is, that you can't expect people to change in ways that you want them to, or for the better. And that their core values rarely change.

I do agree that she is not going to find any motivation, without changing at least the volume of her habit. And that she is not likely to decrease without pressure from an outside source.

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I completely agree.

on a side note:
it's actually quite common for relational abusers to be alcoholics/potheads/drug addicts. it's a scapegoat to blame.
"Oh, i don't hit you when i'm me, only when i'm out of my mind because i couldn't find any weed or because i was drunk/high/both"
Recently, stbx mr.68 has quit and is getting ready to take a drug test so that he can get unsupervised visitation. And he acts like i'm going to go running back because the weed was to blame and now it's gone. which is a joke.

anyway, didn't mean to thread jack.
But those all or nothing words like always or never, have exceptions. and in this case, it's me.
In my worst drunks, in my lowest moments, I never once hit my ex-wife or any woman. This is because I am not a innately violent person, despite my alcoholism.

Alcohol, coke and meth will make violent people even more violent. If you are an aZZhole deep down, alcohol and coke only serve to magnify what is already latent in you.

I have never known pot to do this. I have never known pot to amplify cruelty and meanness. Actually it is quite the opposite, which is why I have no problem with it being legalized. I say legalize it and tax the fvck out of it, just like tobacco. Take that tax money and give drug companies subsidies to make the pill form THC more affordable and available for glaucoma and cancer sufferers.
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You are an embarrassment to selfishness.

Someone I know very well just went over 30 years sober.

He has no problem being around drinkers or in a bar. He remembers how miserable he felt and gets off on the misery of over drinkers.

He also participates in AA and the liars who show up and he knows aren't ready keep him sober.

When I need a sponsor Steve will be him!
It took me a long time to get to where I could do that. I could hang out with people at bars and parties without drinking, but it does take some mental discipline. You have to know your triggers and create strategies to deal with those triggers. After my brief relapse a few years back I stopped going to bars and clubs altogether. Now I just do coffee shops and tea houses.
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In my worst drunks, in my lowest moments, I never once hit my ex-wife or any woman. This is because I am not a innately violent person, despite my alcoholism.

Alcohol, coke and meth will make violent people even more violent. If you are an aZZhole deep down, alcohol and coke only serve to magnify what is already latent in you.

I have never known pot to do this. I have never known pot to amplify cruelty and meanness. Actually it is quite the opposite, which is why I have no problem with it being legalized. I say legalize it and tax the fvck out of it, just like tobacco. Take that tax money and give drug companies subsidies to make the pill form THC more affordable and available for glaucoma and cancer sufferers.
agreed. i am the exception, not the rule.
and also, i agree that you can't blame the substance for the behavior. it only amplifies what is already there.

because pot mellows you out, the azzholery usually comes later, not during. When you don't have more, and/or you don't have money and you no longer are capable of dealing with feelings and emotions. or you are trying to quit. then all the feels are coming at you and you are raw. when you use something to mellow you out, you slowly are rendered incapable of mellowing on your own. Especially if you've been smoking pot for years and years. unless you have the means to stay baked all the time, i guess : )
think of people trying to quit cigs, i guess. How easily irritated they are when they no longer have that crutch in the face of stress.

i also am for legalization, and taxation.

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agreed. i am the exception, not the rule.
and also, i agree that you can't blame the substance for the behavior. it only amplifies what is already there.

because pot mellows you out, the azzholery usually comes later, not during. When you don't have more, and/or you don't have money and you no longer are capable of dealing with feelings and emotions. or you are trying to quit. then all the feels are coming at you and you are raw. when you use something to mellow you out, you slowly are rendered incapable of mellowing on your own. Especially if you've been smoking pot for years and years. unless you have the means to stay baked all the time, i guess : )
think of people trying to quit cigs, i guess. How easily irritated they are when they no longer have that crutch in the face of stress.

i also am for legalization, and taxation.
I don't do pot anymore because I am an AA sponsor and group facilitator. It would be the height of hypocrisy for me to abuse one substance as a replacement for another, when quelling abusive behavior is what AA and NA are all about.

And believe me, I would abuse pot if left to my druthers....I love the stuff.
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There is one benefit, shes very inexpensive to date. We were supposed to go out to dinner last night. She wasn't motived to go anywhere and wanted to just stay in and watch TV. My bank account grows by the day!!

Quite the difference from my X leach

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There is one benefit, shes very inexpensive to date. We were supposed to go out to dinner last night. She wasn't motived to go anywhere and wanted to just stay in and watch TV. My bank account grows by the day!!

Quite the difference from my X leach
That actually makes me kinda sad for her. She's not really creating any fond happy memories by getting high and watching the tube all the time. I read in another thread that she didn't want to go to the hospital to visit your baby niece/nephew. That's sad too. I think if I was in love with someone and in my right state of mind, I would jump at the chance to share in such a happy family memory. Sounds like life is passing her by in a way. I don't really have a problem with marijuana in a lot of ways. I just think it makes people ok with being bored, and it's not ok to be bored all the time. Life is too short to be sitting on a couch.
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I don't do pot anymore because I am an AA sponsor and group facilitator. It would be the height of hypocrisy for me to abuse one substance as a replacement for another, when quelling abusive behavior is what AA and NA are all about.

And believe me, I would abuse pot if left to my druthers....I love the stuff.
My DH's longtime friend introduced him to pot and such when they were in their late teens. By his 20's, the friend realized he had a problem and went to AA. He stopped drinking alcohol and using other drugs, got very involved, and has sponsored many in the intervening years.

He sucks down Coke like the company is going out of business and chain smokes cigarettes like tobacco is an endangered plant.



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That actually makes me kinda sad for her. She's not really creating any fond happy memories by getting high and watching the tube all the time. I read in another thread that she didn't want to go to the hospital to visit your baby niece/nephew. That's sad too. I think if I was in love with someone and in my right state of mind, I would jump at the chance to share in such a happy family memory. Sounds like life is passing her by in a way. I don't really have a problem with marijuana in a lot of ways. I just think it makes people ok with being bored, and it's not ok to be bored all the time. Life is too short to be sitting on a couch.
Honestly, I'd feel awkward going to the hospital to see a newly born niece or nephew of a relatively new SO.

She may not be bored at home. Some people are simply content to stay at home and watch life on TV. Pot might have nothing to do with it. She could quit smoking tomorrow and still not want to go out.

@unbe Experienced pot smokers know that they will eventually build up a tolerance over time. When they begin to need more to get that buzz, they'll typically take a day or few off regularly to keep their tolerance lower.
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That's true @MJJEAN. To each their own. I love little babies. They are so precious and their heads smell so sweet!! I'd probably bust up in a stranger's room and hold their kid, if I wouldn't get in trouble for it!! I'm also not much of a TV watcher/homebody. The question of the hour for @unbe is what is he looking for? One doesn't have to spend a lot of money to go out. One of my favorite things to do right now is to play with my kids, hubby, and doggie at the school/park across the street from my house. I would not be compatible with big homebody.
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That's true @MJJEAN. To each their own. I love little babies. They are so precious and their heads smell so sweet!! I'd probably bust up in a stranger's room and hold their kid, if I wouldn't get in trouble for it!! I'm also not much of a TV watcher/homebody. The question of the hour for @unbe is what is he looking for? One doesn't have to spend a lot of money to go out. One of my favorite things to do right now is to play with my kids, hubby, and doggie at the school/park across the street from my house. I would not be compatible with big homebody.
I'm 3 years from my youngest being grown, but the neighbor lady has a baby on a fairly regular basis (they have 7 kids ranging from age 1-14), so I get a regular baby scent fix.

I have known mismatched couples that seem happy. Some active people seem to do just fine being paired with a homebody while others seem to really resent not having their SO with them when they go out.
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