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post #16 of 32 (permalink) Old 10-19-2016, 11:15 AM
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Re: My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn

Pretty simple,

Quit the porn or she leaves you. So which is it going to be? She's being pretty plain. Women usually aren't, so you should take this as a sign that she's dead serious. Most likely you don't realize that, which is why you're asking, and why you're likely to be divorced very soon.

When a woman says something like that----- you'd better believe they aren't bs'ing you.
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Re: My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn

This is simply my personal experience, so take it or leave it as you wish.

I found upon reflection that I was expecting my wife do do the things and behave the way the women in porn do. When she failed to meet those expectations I started watching more porn and paid less attention to her. She was having some of her own issues at the time so it was easy. Porn is uncomplicated, doesn't have any needs that need to be met, and is ready when you are, and done when you are...

Some women realize they can't meet the expectation so are jealous of porn, especially if there is even a hint that you prefer that to intimacy with them. I believe that feeling is justified.
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If you're getting sex every day and still watching porn, she's right. If you're getting sex once a month, you're right....and let her leave. You'll be better off.
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Re: My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn

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Either stop watching the porn or get a wife who doesn't mind it.
THIS.

It really doesn't matter what YOU think of porn OP. For the sake of argument, it doesn't even have to be porn. It could be any activity.

If you have a spouse that has a problem with something or an activity you like AND this something is VERY important to you then....

DON'T MARRY them. Find someone who will "accept" your activity. Frankly, I'd never marry a woman who wouldn't let me watch porn LOL.

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Why she thinks watching porn is bad? This has nothing to do with her. This is what I like to do and I do it privately.
Watching porn is bad if you're using it as a form of intimacy with yourself everyday rather than being intimate with your wife.

I would consider watching everyday a problem, but once a week or more weeks then I reckon it's her problem. Insecurity on her end perhaps. Comparing one's sex life to porn is hard for some ladies, which is sad because if you can become truly intimate sexually in a marriage, porn is just a boring tool to men, real life sex is more exciting.

But without more information from OP who knows who's in the wrong here.



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If you're getting sex every day and still watching porn, she's right. If you're getting sex once a month, you're right....and let her leave. You'll be better off.
This is one of the most fair and balanced comments I have read on this website as of late. Kudos to you sir.

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If you're getting sex every day and still watching porn, she's right. If you're getting sex once a month, you're right....and let her leave. You'll be better off.
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This is one of the most fair and balanced comments I have read on this website as of late. Kudos to you sir.
I don't agree with it. If he (and of course SHE) are having sex every day, and he still has an urge to watch porn, so what?

It's not like she's being neglected.

Some of us have a higher drive than our partner.
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I don't agree with it. If he (and of course SHE) are having sex every day, and he still has an urge to watch porn, so what?

It's not like she's being neglected. Some of us have a higher drive than our partner.
Porn is a tool (like vibrators for women) to get off with. In a HD / LD mismatch I see nothing wrong with it.

If you need porn and you are getting laid everyday, or as much as you need to, then there is an issue with attraction.

So hypothetically, if you need to have sex 7 times a day and she obliges then what do you need the porn for?

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Porn is a tool (like vibrators for women) to get off with. In a HD / LD mismatch I see nothing wrong with it.

If you need porn and you are getting laid everyday, or as much as you need to, then there is an issue with attraction.

So hypothetically, if you need to have sex 7 times a day and she obliges then what do you need the porn for?
I'm just not getting your point. If they're having sex every day then I'm not seeing attraction being a problem.

What I AM seeing is that the sex isn't satisfying his high drive, so despite the fact that the sex is good, he needs even more so he satisfies himself again.

I've read where some guys jack off multiple times a day to satisfy their craving. Who are we to judge?:
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I think because he posted in addiction board I assumed that his use is very high and that is often associated with neglect of marital sex.

We have sex everyday - I couldn't care less about porn - it is non threatening. When he rejected me for six months and still used porn then I was jealous as ****. I hated it.

I am assuming the OP's wife hates the porn to a point of leaving because he is not having regular sex with her or sex is lame because of it. Not the other way round.

But that is a lot of assumptions, it would be helpful if OP came back to fill in the gaps so we can help him save or not save his marriage.
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It looks like it was a hit & run poster.

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Why she thinks watching porn is bad? This has nothing to do with her. This is what I like to do and I do it privately.
Your wife has two problems there = your infidelity and/or negligence and her own insecurities and jealousy.
Of the two, her insecurity problem is the easiest one to fix right away with a little self esteem and self respect work.
The hardest problem to fix will be your bad behavior.
So long as you believe that what you are doing has little or no negative effects on her, there isn't much she can do other than to ask for what she wants from you or LEAVE YOU.
He request for some loving respect is perfectly normal so you can either giver he what she deserves or go on cheating on her with porn in which case she is right to LEAVE a Cheater like you and go find someone with some HONOR and RESPECT!

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This has everything to do with your woman. Porn can ruin relationships. If u truly love your woman you will save all of your sexual energy for her. There is no need for u to be looking at it. You are disrespecting your woman. She should leave u.
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Make a decision, porn or your wife? You can't have both, so which one can you live without?
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