LOL, "heavy drinker" or alcoholic - what's the difference? I bet she "drinks" so she had to stay with Denial on that one. Did she even mention WHY folks drink - heavy or light?
There is a huge difference actually. I am pretty sure am not an alcoholic but I think I my drinking is unhealthy and too much. There is a checklist of signs of alcoholism that I don't fit into. I can go for a long time without drinking, never drink before 9 or think about alcohol until the evening. If we are saving for a large household item I can quite drinking for months to save money. I am currently on strong medication where I cannot drink - I would rather not drink and have the medication. An alcoholic would chose the booze. I think the biggest sign of an alcoholic is when priorities are skewed. i.e drink driving, not looking after themselves, drink over food, drink over bills being paid, not spending time with the family, risking jobs etc. Alcohol never takes priority over common sense and responsibilities for me. I think I also mentioned that I am pretty sure I am not an alcoholic because I can throw a half glass of wine down the sink because I have a cut off point where I begin to feel woozy. I don't like being drunk - I would seriously make the worst alcoholic.
I am not in denial. The fact that I went for advice means I was open to the idea of being told otherwise.
All drinkers are "emotional drinkers" due to unsatisfactory emotions/feelings that drinking is supposed to soothe or manage.
Not at all. My husband is hugely into single malt whisky which he savors. He buys books on it and studies the flavours. He also likes real ale (cannot stand the stuff myself) because he loves the taste.
Same here so I never saw myself as an alcoholic UNTIL I went too far and finally had to go for help!
It took therapy and a good friend to convince me to totally stop - thank god!
So pleased for you. How long has it been?
I do not have kids, but if I did, they would be the most significant reason to STOP being a miserable, dangerous alcoholic like my dad and some other drunks I know. Kids need and deserve the very best parenting/parents they can get and a drunk is not a good option.
I am many things but nobody could ever call me a bad parent. I don't even drink in front of them (well occasionally a glass of wine at an event). Neither of my children have seen me drunk (I don't actually get drunk - I HATE being drunk and I HATE hangovers. I am a SAHM parenting a child with severe learning difficulties. Both my children get 100% from me. I am proud of my parenting. I see how my alcoholic brother has given up on parenting in favour of being in the pub. This weekend he did not pick his daughter up because he was too drunk/hungover after a christmas party. Unthinkable to me.
I'm so glad that I finally went for and found HELP. I no longer drink nor smoke and my triggers are less or none these days - whew!
Good for you. How long?
You appear to be spamming the Relationships and Addictions board. Have you now a problem with porn?