Re: Wife wants me to start drinking again!
My husband is a recovering alcoholic and has been in AA for almost 3 years, and done really well.
Your wife doesn't sound helpful or supportive really. I could never imagine telling my husband to drink again, after what all we went through for years with the drinking issue.
I couldn't tell you the last time I had a drink myself, probably years. I have never been a big drinker anyway, maybe a drink once every few months. Since living with an alcoholic for years it pretty much turned me off to it anyway. However one thing I would never do, (even if my husband told me I could), I would never drink in front of him. Even though he must take care of himself and try to resist temptation at times if he ever sees others drinking, I still would never drink infront of him like that. IMO thats just disrespectful to him.
She sounds like she has a problem of her on. BTW no one has to be a falling down drunk or come home staggering in from a bar at 2am to be considered a alcoholic. Yes, some may be worse off than others, but a alcoholic is an alcoholic, period.
I'm not sure if you are in AA, I didn't read all the replies sorry for that. However, if you are, I would suggest you asking her to come with you to one. If you're not and done fine without AA thats good, but might be still helpful for you and her both to attend. Also, since her mother drinks and you did as well, she should check out Alanon as well for herself.
"If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten."