Wow, that kinda sounds like the old me, I almost hit rock bottom, my husband didn't like me very much, my girls 26 & 27 barely talked to me and the list goes on.
I knew I was an alcoholic but did not know how to stop, I would different things like nothing before noon, only six beers, what ever I tried I could not stop one night me and my husband were fighting so I went downstairs to finish getting smashed, sometime during the night I asked my higher power to please help me not drink.
The next day I checked myself in 7 day detox, went to stay with my sister for a while and I joined alcoholics anonymous, I haven't had a drink in a year and 1/2, I love aa so very much, it saved my life and for that I am grateful! !!
I know this is loong, so if your wife would like to talk to someone have her get in touch with me or your local Alcoholics Anonymous.
They will love her until she can love herself.
Good luck to you and your wife.
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