So long story short, my husband and I have been married for 4 years, together 5, we've always had a great relationship. It wasn't until our first Christmas together as a married couple (yay!!....) and only 4 months married at that that I found out that he had a flirting and porn addiction. I also made the mistake and going back and reading super old Facebook messages of his and let's just say he has a colorful past. (Before us getting together) But 4 years later I THINK we've gotten rid of his flirting addiction... I've stopped going through his phone because of the awkwardness of having to ask and the guilt for doing it in secret and then having to confront him about my findings. So judging by that I think we're in the clear. Also because I haven't seen suspicious texts at random times from unknown numbers that pop up at night. BUT... his porn addiction on the other hand... it still has a big hold on him and he keeps going to this adult boutique/theater down the road. And the fact it has glory holes worries me all the more. He says he's never used them but has been tempted. All the reason to worry more. I know he would never mindfully cheat on me but I understand that when an addiction has its hold on you it can be hard to resist. But I recently found out that he went to that theater a couple weeks ago and I'm going to talk to him about it and tell him we need to do counseling or therapy. We have a daughter now and I'm tired of worrying and feeling bitter every time this happens. And quite frankly of being betrayed and constantly losing any trust in him that I've regained. So basically going to tell him we go through counseling and it's either me and our daughter or his perverted addiction. He can't have both anymore. I was hoping by the time she was born that this would be over. It's definitely not worth getting divorced. I believe with all my heart we can get through this so if that's going to be your comment, don't bother. I want to hear your thoughts about this type of addiction and any success stories.
Side note: About a year or so ago he told me he read up on what women want sex wise but won't admit to and one of them was a threesome and now he just can't seem to shake the fantasy. And I absolutely refuse. It's the same as cheating if you ask me. No. No. No! Ugh...
Side note: About a year or so ago he told me he read up on what women want sex wise but won't admit to and one of them was a threesome and now he just can't seem to shake the fantasy. And I absolutely refuse. It's the same as cheating if you ask me. No. No. No! Ugh...