Re: Does it ever get better?
I am suffering as the wife of a porn addict. We've been married for 19 years. I always knew he looked at, but just recently I learned how bad the addiction can be The hardest part for me was that is an addiction and serious one. I chose to leave him prior to really understanding his addiction. We based the separation as just growing apart as we got older. Now I have been doing a lot of research about it and also have an appointment to seek my own therapy. This addiction crushed my world. I truly believe it as the root cause of our growing apart. I confronted him with the realization the other day for the first time and called him the addict. He did not disagree with me, but he showed no remorse for my pain I was sharing with him. Now I try to talk to him about it, calmly, friendly and he just shuts me out. He will not admit his complete addiction or even say that he is wiling to get help. He yells at my for my knowledge of the subject and tells me he will not ever talk to me about it. This is the most hurtful part is that I even though our marriage is over, I still want him to get better. He thinks his addiction is not related to our marriage issues, but everything else is. The usual fights about money, kids, vacations, etc. That is why I am seeking help for myself and try to keep strong enough to move on in my "golden" years. Good luck, but remember that porn is an addiction for most men and is a very deep rooted demon.