Re: Does it ever get better?
Can I ask you something? You sound a lot like me in some ways. My wife had an obsession with another man for years that I suspected and finally got proof of, which she denied point blank, until I confronted her with months of explicit diary entries, which she swears to this day she "can't remember writing?". She had told me she had no interest in sex and never thought about it. For me it was the dishonesty that hurt the most, not the idea that she might be attracted to someone else other than (or as well as) me. I assumed everyone in a marriage is attracted to other people from time to time - but have read countless stories of unfaithful women (never men) finding themselves kissing a guy or worse and saying "I never dreamed it would happen to me" etc etc. I KNOW I am capable of infidelity, I just stay away from it and put out the "I'm happily married" vibes to leave women in no doubt.
If your husband had openly said to you that he enjoys watching porn from time time to time, but being with you was much more fulfilling to him, and he uses it as a masturbation aid - to me that's all porn is - and had asked if you would be interested in watching it with him sometime, would your reaction have been different? Or do you view porn as bad in itself? After watching porn, I literally couldn't tell you what I have watched. Certainly don't have a spreadsheet comparing the porn women to my wife as some seem to imagine.
If so, where do you stand on romantic / erotic fiction (50 shades) ? What about female masturbation? What about your H masturbating without porn? What about you masturbating? Just curious where the problem is for you.
Last edited by Good Guy; 01-04-2017 at 12:43 PM.