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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 12-29-2016, 07:03 AM
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I'd say to buy the host couple a fresh, unopened bottle of the same stuff, hand-deliver it to them with some well thought out words of apology in hand, greatly to the effect that it's worth it to you to now know that you have a thief living in your midst!

And never take your W to any party or social gathering again until such time that she becomes truly sorry and repentant for what it was that she has done!

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post #17 of 20 (permalink) Old 12-30-2016, 07:54 PM
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Re: Christmas family work barbecue

Originally Posted by 3Xnocharm View Post
This woman has steamrolled over you since day one! 15 years??? Why the hell do you put up with her sh!t??


I have been married for 15 years.
I'm from Scotland and my wife is a kiwi that I met in Scotland.
She was over starting a life in Scotland because of she had family in Scotland and I know she didn't come from a loving family over in new zealand. Her dad was an alcoholic and her mother remarried and physically abused her.
I found out she often ran away from home.
Well when I met her I didnt know any of this.
And I used to visit her in England where she was working and she would visit me
In Scotland.
She then decided to move in with me she just appeared at my door with her bags.
I got a good job and decided to take her to new zealand. We there for a month on holiday.
Her family did nothing but abuse me but I put up with it for my wife's sake.
Then two weeks into my holiday I suggested that maybe one day we could get married. She jumped up out of bed and announced to her family that we were going to get married. Her mother congratulated me and so did the rest of the family.
It wasn't what I was meaning. I meant get married sometime In the future but the ball had started rolling and I felt I could not go back on it.
Maybe fear that she would not return back to Scotland.
So we got married. I was by myself and had no one to support me. I was mortified but done it.
So after that we returned to Scotland.
My marriage has been a nightmare. She is control freak twisted individual that has manipulated,stole,lied,blackmailed.
We had a beautiful daughter and she blackmailed me to new zealand saying that she would take her back if I didn't come so I had to sell my house for the fare over here. My family believe that she nothing but evil and twisted and that u should leave her but I couldn't because of my daughter.
I have been living in new zealand for 7 years now and she's totally out of control I don't know what to do any more. I love my daughter do much and I don't want to leave her but I have nobody for support as all my family is in Scotland


Yikes @dave626 it looks like the wine incident is the least of your worries.

Hope it worked out okay when you went back to work.
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Re: Christmas family work barbecue

Thanks for all the replies
I'm feeling anxious.
Back to work tomorrow

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Re: Christmas family work barbecue

I made amends at work
My boss was very understanding
Gave him a bottle of wine.
Thanks for the advice everyone.

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Re: Christmas family work barbecue

Glad it all worked out . I'm sure you're relieved.

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