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Relationships and Addiction Whether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, or anything else, addictions can be detrimental to the health of a relationship.

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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 03-07-2017, 04:26 PM
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I'm going to counseling b/c I said I would go for a bit. I'm going to counseling for me, not him. I need to understand what he would rather talk to someone else than be with me.
Pardon?? This doesn't even make sense. How is a therapist going to tell you why HE did what HE did if they don't even know the dude?? Him cheating on you has NOTHING to do with you. The guy is a POS.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.


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post #17 of 21 (permalink) Old 03-09-2017, 03:20 PM Thread Starter
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Not stringing him along. Not giving him hope. I am just devastated and so far have enjoyed seeing a counselor. I am needing the benefits I can get from counseling. It's not as easy as I make this look. Lol. It's difficult as hell to deal with all this every day.
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Not stringing him along. Not giving him hope. I am just devastated and so far have enjoyed seeing a counselor. I am needing the benefits I can get from counseling. It's not as easy as I make this look. Lol. It's difficult as hell to deal with all this every day.
Generally speaking a therapist/counselor will not take sides, they should primarily work towards improving a situation by better defining the dynamics of a relationship and help provide better coping mechanisms or strategies to deal with behaviors that are causing pain and/or discomfort to themselves or others.

So this business of "I have an addiction, come to counseling with me so I can prove it to you" in itself is a behavior creating harm for you @Want2Understand and I am curious to know how this is playing out for him?

Obviously he struggles with a lack of empathy which could be many things, of which sex addiction seems like a means to "enable" himself to continue doing whatever he wants unimpeded by tradition exceptions of a relationship.
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I agree you do this for YOU, not him. Btw you dont need to go to HIS counselor. You can look around for one better for you if you don't think you are getting what you need or that counselor is too much on his side of the story
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LOL. "Sex addiction" my ass.

Yet another TYPICAL serial cheater trying to blame his sh1t behavior on a supposed addiction.

Sounds as though Romeo takes advantage of the occasional opportunities that fall in his lap, is all. He does it for the fun, the excitement, the sexual VARIETY, and the huge ego strokes it gives him that someone is willing to waste her time on his sorry ass so that means he's still 'desirable.'

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.....or did he just "discover" the sex addiction after he was caught?
That's when most of these lying sleazes discover their 'addiction' - right around the time they're caught with their pants down. The ability to self diagnose such a serious abnormality - to say nothing of the timing of this self-diagnosis - is really quite amazing, isn't it? Yes, indeedy.

OP, you won't have any problem finding some UNQUALIFIED quack who'll back your husband's phony story up and affix the sex addict label to him. Therapists all over are suddenly thinking they're qualified to make this diagnosis when they are NOT qualified at ALL to make it. So you'll find some idiot who'll do it, send him to some public SA meetings (they're like AA meetings now - anyone can walk in and claim to be a sex addict now) and that will validate your lying, serial cheating husband's excuse for ONCE AGAIN cheating on you.

So you've caught him HOW many times now?

Imagine how many times he's gotten away with it when you didn't catch him.

And this is the guy you want to stay with.

My brain is going to explode.
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Right I do think your onto something, it mine would blame me... Except I am the one at home.. Now what?


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