I am a huge homeschooling advocate, so don't get me started. SO many wrong assumptions on this thread!! If anyone wants to debate the merits of homeschooling, I would love to do so, in another thread started for the purpose. Anyway, that is beside the point here. The kids are thriving, in the OP's words, so the homeschooling itself isn't an issue.
The issue is this womans addiction to her phone etc. THAT is what needs to be addressed. Sticking her kids in school and her getting a job isn't going to do that. If anything, she'll just get fired for being on her phone all the time at work.
MC is an ok idea, although again, how is that addressing her problem? It could be very helpful, though, to the OP to understand exactly what she DOES do in a day. And to maybe open her eyes to the fact she has a problem??
Maybe start with asking her to write down everything she does in a typical day. You can do the same thing - write out everything you each do over the course of a whole day, from getting up to going to bed. Then share them. I bet both of you will be surprised.
Hiring a housekeeper is definitely something to consider also, but NOT unless and until the question of her 'addiction' is answered. I know if I was homeschooling little kids, I could sure use a housekeeper a couple days a week!! Or a mothers helper.
This is great advice. I homeschool my kids and know that when I was feeling stressed out about something going on in my marriage, I spent more time searching online for help and answers (including lots of time on TAM). I too do not wish to debate the research on the benefits of homeschooling here so I'll leave that for another thread.
OP, I think it's great that you are aware and interested in what your wife and children are doing together during the day. It sounds to me like your wife is getting needs met online instead of with you. As for her blog, I believe that it is important for homeschooling parents to have their own hobbies/interests/activities, as focusing solely on the children and family can lead to helicopter parenting/depression in the parent, etc. So I'm glad that you recognize that her blog/social activities online could be of benefit to her but it may be that she needs help/support with time management.
I'd be thrilled if my husband wanted to sit down with me and discuss how we spend our time during the day and together during family time. I'm a fan of Marriage Builders and Dr. Harley talks a lot about how in a marriage, both partners should agree to how the other spends their time. I'd let her know that you are coming from a place of care, concern, and love, and you're worried that her time online may be impacting the family and your marriage, and you are willing to look at your schedule as well to see how you both can make improvements to ensure each other's needs are being met.
I know that when my husband watches TV (mainly sports) I absolutely use that time to read, either online or my kindle. And I'd much prefer he spend that time engaging with me instead.
*also wanted to add that we have a biweekly housecleaning service that helps keep our home to both my husband's and my standards. To keep our home (3400 sq ft) as clean as we like it, it takes 1 person 6 hours a week to clean. There is no way I have 6 hours during the weekdays on top of homeschooling, laundry, running errands, cooking, and managing rides to sports' practices, etc. to do that. It would have to occur on the weekends, which means everyone pitches in, and my husband and I agreed we do not want to spend the 3 hours together on Sat to do this. However, with the deep cleaning done for us, we do clean up every mess after we make it, so my husband does not come home to messes or little bombs and our children know that in order to do the next thing (go to sports practice, play outside, play video games, etc.), their rooms need to be clean, laundry put away, and dishes done. This is a parenting system though that both my husband and I participate in facilitating with our kids- it is not solely up to me to be on my children constantly throughout the day.