Relationships and AddictionWhether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, or anything else, addictions can be detrimental to the health of a relationship.
"I have an eleven year old stepdaughter whom I love dearly. If I seen any of what had been described in the OP's posts, my concern would be for her well being above everything, not analyzing my boyfriends addiction.
GA2009 priorites seem to be more on fixing her marriage, not on the safety of the youngest daughter. Just perplexs me, thats all. "
Yes I Totally agree with you on this point, this is really strange... I actually even said to her that if she really thought that her child was in danger, that I couldn't understand why she was still there, and that the marriage is not as important as protecting her daughter. I can't understand it either..... It is all very strange. I just hope they can work it out, for the kids sake.
That answer also applies to the other post. I know that leaving is the most obvious thing to do but my husband will get parental rights. I thought that if he could get help then I could wait until she is old enough to go to college and I could live in peace.
As it stands, things aren't looking good, my husband has an anger problem and screams so loud the entire neighborhood can hear him. The kids are always scare when we argue. Even though the houses are pretty far apart. He said today he is not going to give up that easy, because we argued about the filter for his computer, he hates it and he wants it off, he said I have to trust him.
I understand your dilema Ga2009, and I'm so sorry you're in this situation, I know it's hard to know what is the right path... maybe you can ask a higher power, and find your answer? If that's not something you do, then you will have to think, long, and hard, and really try hard, to figure out what is best. Above all, nothing is more imporant when you feel your child might be in danger... Nothing... I am thinking of you. Take care.
Leaving will leave my husband opened to hurt our daughter because I have no evidence. Healthy or not.
Assuming your husband is not criminally insane...
The quickest route is to remember that "Perfect love casts out all fear". So maybe working on your marriage and opening a genuine dialogue with your husband could be the way to go.
It is impossible to tell the level of your husband's problem simply by reading your posts. If your fears persist you should call in the professionals.
I think this is what I have been trying to do. Because perfect love casts out all fear. I need to remember this sentence to help me with my moments of anxiety, and when I see no solution to this problem. Thanks Mark.
Marina, thanks so much you are very thoughtful and I believe in God and I think that is what has kept us together for 24 years, because even tough my husband is not very spiritual, with my example and my desire to succeed in our relationship we have stayed together.
His brother had 3 marriages, and my husband and I both agreed that he just needed someone that loved him and his first two wives were very into parties and drugs etc...his last wife was a nice woman who helped him so much and he changed into a completely differnt man. He became very mature and he was involved with his kids and nicer and he quit smoking and his drug addiction that he quit. So I know that my husband can find himself and be a good man.
I agree with you guys. I know full well what a online sex addict does to a relationship. I went thru everything that you all described so i will not be repettitive. But the flip side to my story is that he did recognize his addiction and went to counceling for it. We also went together many times and it did help me understand what an addiction does to a persons brain and how it affects everyone around us. He has made huge inprovements over the last two years and our relationship is strong as ever. I will always have a eye on him but i know he is going to be fine with counseling and support from me and some family members who know. We can let addicion of any kind win out. If we did there would not be many of us left.
Much love and well wishes!
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