My wife and I have been married 9 years now, both of us having been married before. I am 49 she is 52. She was married 19 years to her first love and had only been with 3 other men before meeting me.
In 2008 she had an affair with a coworker on and off for 9 months. I caught her the first week and she claimed she broke it off, she quit the job but did not quit him for 9 months. After I found out about it again I was devastated, we went to counseling and have worked it out. In summer 2010 she joined Facebook and began playing the games available leading to making friends and soon after making friends she left herself logged on day and her messages that she forgot to delete told me she had a special friend that she was texting and calling. At first she got all defensive and mad because I was "checking up" on her like I didnt trust her....well duh?? She stopped that friend only to move on to others, this I know because I installed a ke ylogger that even recorded her video chats. One guy she even did a strip tease for several times. he was 15 years younger than her so she was feeling very special. Everday after I walked out the door for work she would log on to see him and then talk me down. This went on for a few weeks before I confronted her and told her to decide what she wanted because I am finished. Same crap different day she acted like the victim.
She is still on facebook everyday for hours neglecting the house, herself, and our marriage playing stupid games. I no longer check her activity online because I just dont care anymore. I have been off work for 6 months now at home all day with her so I know she is no longer cam chatting but as for messaging I have no clue. I am tired of talking about it with her over and over again just to go back to being online all day and at times hope she does find someone to make her happy just to set me free. I have told her time and time again her addiction is going to be our end. She stops for a few days at best only to get back in that chair for hours on end ever day.
I am tired of being alone and taken for granted, money is very tight so even splitting will be tough.
In 2008 she had an affair with a coworker on and off for 9 months. I caught her the first week and she claimed she broke it off, she quit the job but did not quit him for 9 months. After I found out about it again I was devastated, we went to counseling and have worked it out. In summer 2010 she joined Facebook and began playing the games available leading to making friends and soon after making friends she left herself logged on day and her messages that she forgot to delete told me she had a special friend that she was texting and calling. At first she got all defensive and mad because I was "checking up" on her like I didnt trust her....well duh?? She stopped that friend only to move on to others, this I know because I installed a ke ylogger that even recorded her video chats. One guy she even did a strip tease for several times. he was 15 years younger than her so she was feeling very special. Everday after I walked out the door for work she would log on to see him and then talk me down. This went on for a few weeks before I confronted her and told her to decide what she wanted because I am finished. Same crap different day she acted like the victim.
She is still on facebook everyday for hours neglecting the house, herself, and our marriage playing stupid games. I no longer check her activity online because I just dont care anymore. I have been off work for 6 months now at home all day with her so I know she is no longer cam chatting but as for messaging I have no clue. I am tired of talking about it with her over and over again just to go back to being online all day and at times hope she does find someone to make her happy just to set me free. I have told her time and time again her addiction is going to be our end. She stops for a few days at best only to get back in that chair for hours on end ever day.
I am tired of being alone and taken for granted, money is very tight so even splitting will be tough.