Doubt&Wonder

Probably because he either knows or feels that he is about to loose her....... and IMO a lot of men tend to change once they have lost and it is over - Go Figure.

Doubt&Wonder

Lost opportunities for emotional bonding with the man you love....... YOU can render this by starting the lights on eyes open at all times - from this moment forward.

Good Luck....

evenow

Actually, that is a problem. What if I don't enjoy looking into his eyes at that particular moment, or if doing so is an impossibility?

draconis

Okay the chemicals released during orgasm makes a mental picture used in bonding. What if she closes her eyes does she then get turned on in the dark? SOrry pillow talk from the wife and I.

draconis

Doubt&Wonder

YES....................... believe it or not - the answer is YES.

Remember I stated this back a few post:

Doubt&Wonder

Impossible due to what? - - - Fear of What...True Intimacy maybe?

And please keep in mind that this new bonding experience will be uncomfortable for some when they first start it, but give it a try and in time you will find it desirable........ besides: Practice makes Perfect.

draconis

True Intimacy ~ I don't think everyone can or wants to train themselves because this is the newest greatest thing. My wife likes to close her eyes. Hey it works for her and when it is over she is right back to looking into my eyes.

draconis

kajira

To answer the question, my ex2be does not know.......I keep telling him I do not know if I can work it out or not....bad on my part....sometimes I think I can and other times I just can't.........and this morning he was crying..........

draconis

sorry my post was about looking into the other persons eyes during orgasm. sorry to confuse.

draconis

evenow

Well I guess I'll just come out and say it. If this is inappropriate, let me know and I'll edit it. What if you can't look into their eyes because of the particular positions you like?

Perhaps you are right about a fear of true intimacy. I'm not sure quite what that means. But certain positions (many of the ones that face the spouse) are kinda boring for me. When I'm not looking at him I don't focus on his face, and I can focus on other things: my needs, his response, the feeling...etc.

It's kinda like when you smell a smell or listen to a sound and close your eyes to take it all in.

kajira

Nicely put!

Sometimes you go with moment and do what comes naturally........

Doubt&Wonder

Then I would say go for IT at the moment (and) try other times during the week to look into his eyes........
for SEX is like a T-shirt - One size does not fit all.

draconis

Heck what ever works for you. I have know people to say up and down this tech works or you need that. Everyone is different in what they will do, what they like, what they want, how they veiw it. Hey spice is nice. Keep it fresh, exciting maybe try something new to see if you like it.

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demora

Reading this thread, it make sense to me now why my husband is not happy just to make love to me. I have to pretend to be someone else in order for him to get excited. I guess that I have to pretend to be the women in all the porn that he looks at all the time.

I truly believe my husband is addicted to porn. He has spent hundreds and hundreds of dollars on it. It's been going on for about 1 year and half now. I don't know what to do about it anymore. It's ruining us financially, and seriously hurting how I feel about him. I feel like he's very selfish and he doesn't care what the porn does to our life at all. I don't have a problem with him looking at it as much as I have an issue with the amount of money he spends on it. Over $800.00 in one month.

The big thing is with his lack of caring about our life, it's hurting how I feel about him....and it's also hurting my sex drive. I don't want to make love to him because I feel like it's not me he's making love to anymore. Is that crazy??