Doubt&Wonder

Why SEX / PORN can be Addictive... "written from the male POV"


YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE BRAIN TO YOUR SEXUALITY.

Changes occur in the male physical body during the sexual act that not only changes its physical appearance, but also affects it physiologically in many ways when a man is being sexual. FACT – to be a sexually successful man, you must have a sexually successful brain. Typically what a man thinks about and focuses on is what he ends up doing.

While all the case studies confirm that men spend a lot of time thinking about sex many times throughout the day, we must ask the question why so many men are not having sexual success. One reason is because of the manner in which men are thinking about sex. Another reason is the men’s brains have actually been trained about sex. This faulty thinking and training hinders the sexual success that men could experience. The good news is that there is an answer for these problems. It is possible to create a sexually successful brain.


WHAT IS SEX GLUE?

When a man ejaculates his brain receives its maximum chemical reward (more powerful than any illegal street drug). Critical to a man’s sexual success is understanding that whatever he looks at while having an ejaculation is what he will sexually connect or “glue” to.
Whatever his eyes focus on when he sexually releases - - - a person, image, object, will become etched in his brain as a photographic attachment toward that person, image or object. This called “SEX GLUE”.
So after a period of time of having sex with the same person, when he sees her, he is going to feel attached to her.

Hence the reason why lights should always be on during lovemaking and eyes wide open – make the eye contact to insure mental bonding of the two.

(This process is true for both men and women during sex)

A true fact:
Men will emotionally and sexually become glued to what ever it is that he views through the eyes during his sexual release, even that of a once youthful, beautiful and slender wife that has now put on little weight and is changing with old father time. Not to mention what happens to the body after giving birth to a few of his children (smiles).


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draconis

So true I list the chemicals in one of my thesis, by this is written well and less like a text book.

draconis

fire_vogel

this is a very interesting piece and insightful too.

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kajira

I would be very interested in seeing how the same would be true for a woman.

lovemywife

and I would be very interested in meeting this women with sex addiction :P
Doubt&Wonder good post

draconis

It is true for women too. Women make up one out of three porn addicts if I remember from the research on my porn thesis. I think the numbers would be higher but generally, specially with older women, it was not though acceptable and shunned what they did not know making judgments on such.

draconis

draconis

No you would not. Addict means they have a problem they can not fully control. Why would you want that except to exploit it?

draconis

kajira

I think there is a fine line between addiction and being comfortable with ones own sexuatliy. Society is such that men "conquer", while if a women exhibits the same behavior she is "****ty". This mentality has been around for many many years. While it is "not fair" it is the truth. I belive that women who are in acceptance of their own sexuality should be rejoiced!

draconis

I agree that as a society we should not hold a double standard. I do believe as a society we are getting better. I for one hold people to the same standard but then again if people are more inclined now a days to have had partners then before.

draconis

Doubt&Wonder

It is very true for both men and women - what ever you look at during your BIG "O" will start to turn you on and get you all excited when you are sexual with your partner....... I heard about a man that always looked at his boots during sex and over time he could not have sex with out wearing his boots - no boots no orgasm.

I personally use to look at a certain spot on the ceiling and I found that my orgasm was much stronger when I had my eyes open and looking up...... now I look into the eyes of my man (my husband).

draconis

My eyes are always roaming, no wonder everything about my wife turns me on!

draconis

kajira

I visualize more internally. More along the lines of a ball of engery that explodes into tiny particules that cover my entire body. I don't neccessarily focus on one particular item, more the whole experience.

Doubt&Wonder

As do I - but at that moment of sexual explosion I place my eyes upon the man I love..... as to connect and bond with him and him only.

kajira

I wish I could connect, I think....my ex2be and I talked last night and I still feel so indifferent. He wants intamacy now and I can not stand the thought of him touching me..I calcualted and if he and the other woman were together for 4.5 years and had sex once a month that is over 50+ he was "intamite" with her...and after a month I just supposed to be like "it's okay honey, let's go for it"..i don't think so...........

evenow

I've been reading this thread for a little while and I realize I've never looked into his eyes. I typically avoid them. Hmmn. I wonder what problems this creates.

Does he know he's an ex to be? I'm just curious why he's interested in intimacy from you now.