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@ CLucas976 - PA is not the same. I knew I should have moved to NY, lol.
But I feel better! I got an email from my attorney this morning. He said that he is only entitled to half of any INCREASE in the equity from date of marriage to date of separation. Which was only 6 months, AND property values in the City have decreased! So his amount is going to be half of ZERO!
He is supposedly coming around here today/tonight. He sent me a text late last night saything "This is how its going down, and thats all thats to it, Im coming around there tomorrow and getting my weight bench and whatever else I have!"
The only thing left is the weight bench. But today will not work for me, so he can knock all he wants to.
As long as I know he cant hurt my parents, then I dont care what he does or says.
I'll tell you tho, this has really been a hurtful eye opener! Someone who claimed to love me soooo much - all those nasty things he said yesterday, all thats he has done in the past 4 months, and then what he threatened about taking me to court to go after my parents house!!! Im beside myself! This is what kind of love he had for me. And I really did love him. I really really did.
@ CLucas976 - PA is not the same. I knew I should have moved to NY, lol.
But I feel better! I got an email from my attorney this morning. He said that he is only entitled to half of any INCREASE in the equity from date of marriage to date of separation. Which was only 6 months, AND property values in the City have decreased! So his amount is going to be half of ZERO!
He is supposedly coming around here today/tonight. He sent me a text late last night saything "This is how its going down, and thats all thats to it, Im coming around there tomorrow and getting my weight bench and whatever else I have!"
The only thing left is the weight bench. But today will not work for me, so he can knock all he wants to.
As long as I know he cant hurt my parents, then I dont care what he does or says.
I'll tell you tho, this has really been a hurtful eye opener! Someone who claimed to love me soooo much - all those nasty things he said yesterday, all thats he has done in the past 4 months, and then what he threatened about taking me to court to go after my parents house!!! Im beside myself! This is what kind of love he had for me. And I really did love him. I really really did.
I'm happy you heard from your attorney I'm sure that eases your struggles.
You need to be done with this chapter of your life Philly. No doubt you loved him, and he no longer deserves your love and affection and he's proving that now.
@ CLucas976 - PA is not the same. I knew I should have moved to NY, lol.
But I feel better! I got an email from my attorney this morning. He said that he is only entitled to half of any INCREASE in the equity from date of marriage to date of separation. Which was only 6 months, AND property values in the City have decreased! So his amount is going to be half of ZERO!
He is supposedly coming around here today/tonight. He sent me a text late last night saything "This is how its going down, and thats all thats to it, Im coming around there tomorrow and getting my weight bench and whatever else I have!"
The only thing left is the weight bench. But today will not work for me, so he can knock all he wants to.
As long as I know he cant hurt my parents, then I dont care what he does or says.
I'll tell you tho, this has really been a hurtful eye opener! Someone who claimed to love me soooo much - all those nasty things he said yesterday, all thats he has done in the past 4 months, and then what he threatened about taking me to court to go after my parents house!!! Im beside myself! This is what kind of love he had for me. And I really did love him. I really really did.
Isn't it amazing what "love" does to someone? You love me and yet you told the whole county and your parents that I'm a fat ***** who cheats on you? (which never happened. I have such terrible self image that even the idea of trying to flirt with another guy sends me into an anxiety attack, and we've been apart for over a year now) pasted your twisted version of our dirty laundry all over my workplace, and invited a pregnant girl to live with you?
Once it's far enough in the past, it's kind of funny really. You will find yourself laughing at how incredibly stupid and false the behaviors you're currently putting up with really are, and wondering how on earth they bothered you so much.
Glad that he gets nothing from his threat even if he did go through with it. If I were you I'd put the work bench outside and leave it for him. keep it together lady, theres at least less stressful men out there
Philly: Just note that all the nasty things your H is saying, is a way for him to lash out, to hurt you. Because he can't control you anymore!
And the weight bench that he wants to pick up? Don't waste your time, just tell him you will put it outside and he could pick it up anytime. Don't engage and stop responding to his text / messages.
Hang in there ...it will get better!
When my wife used my love to get me out of the house by saying "if you love me you will give me some space, go to your dad's house for 2 weeks and I promise we'll be ok". three days later I got an email that she wanted a divorce. Instead of lashing out to her I called and asked what happened. everytime she would just hang up on me. so instead of getting mad I decided to look at why she would do this. slowly I realized my mistakes and decided to fix them. She has a house under both our names. (she pays all the mortgage which is part of why she left me I feel). along with other issues I have. but I once told her that I would be different than most. I would show her love in these hard times. Instead of name calling or having anger and trying to hurt her, I would respect her decisions and try to work on myself. so long story short. I would never fight for her house. my dad raised me correct and I would not ever hurt my beautiful princess like that. I've realized that I love is priceless and in times some choose to hurt the ones they cared for. but I decided I hurt her enough with my depression and it's time to grow as a person. I guess your husband has decided to go with anger instead of love. you hurt him and instead of healing he decided to hurt you back. stay strong
When my wife used my love to get me out of the house by saying "if you love me you will give me some space, go to your dad's house for 2 weeks and I promise we'll be ok". three days later I got an email that she wanted a divorce. Instead of lashing out to her I called and asked what happened. everytime she would just hang up on me. so instead of getting mad I decided to look at why she would do this. slowly I realized my mistakes and decided to fix them. She has a house under both our names. (she pays all the mortgage which is part of why she left me I feel). along with other issues I have. but I once told her that I would be different than most. I would show her love in these hard times. Instead of name calling or having anger and trying to hurt her, I would respect her decisions and try to work on myself. so long story short. I would never fight for her house. my dad raised me correct and I would not ever hurt my beautiful princess like that. I've realized that I love is priceless and in times some choose to hurt the ones they cared for. but I decided I hurt her enough with my depression and it's time to grow as a person. I guess your husband has decided to go with anger instead of love. you hurt him and instead of healing he decided to hurt you back. stay strong
Thanks Ferndog. I have read your post, and I am sorry for what you are goign through. I can see how much you truly love your wife. I hope that you get the help you need to work on your own issues, I know what you are going through. In the end, you need to do what you have to for YOU but who knows what the outcome will be once your wife sees that you stood up and took control of what you needed. I can tell you, it would have made a WORLD of difference to me with my husband! Best of luck to you! Hug!!!
[QUOTE=phillybrokenheart;655827]Thanks Ferndog. I have read your post, and I am sorry for what you are goign through. I can see how much you truly love your wife. I hope that you get the help you need to work on your own issues, I know what you are going through. In the end, you need to do what you have to for YOU but who knows what the outcome will be once your wife sees that you stood up and took control of what you needed. I can tell you, it would have made a WORLD of difference to me with my husband! Best of luck to you! Hug!!
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Re: He came back with a vengence! 
I'm sure that eases your struggles.
Re: He came back with a vengence! 
