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So I posted earlier about how good it felt to finally tell my STBX to go to hell.
Well, he came back with a vengence. Sent me a text saying that he was now going to take me to court to get any equity in my PARENTS home.
This is AWFUL!!!!
My parents last home was in my name (long story) but it was THEIR house. Thanks to my first divorce, they lost it. So when that divorce was over, I bought a duplex, my parents lived on the first floor and me and my daughter lived on the second floor.
It took me three years to get my finances in order to finally get my parents a real house again. I bought a them a home, and I rent another home for me and my daughter. (I wasnt able to purchase 2 homes and just wanted to get them squared away first) I pay both the mortgage for them and my rent!
The house that they live in is in MY NAME. But its their house! dejavu! OMG! So now, he is threating to take me to court to get "his share" of the equity from it. And by law, he has the right to do that!
I am freakiing out all over again!
I can not believe this! I can not believe I am going to be right back where I was in 2006 when my divorce was finally over with my first husband!
Well you have been paying the payments on the house with community income right? So yes he does have the right to half of the increase in equity since you married him.
However the housing market it not all that good is it? How long were you married to him? How much equity do you think is in the house now? There might now be any regardless of how much you have paid into it.
Talk to a lawyer. I also think think he's bullying you.
If you and your parents were on the title, he would also have to have been named as a tenant in common or joint tenant on the title to have a claim to it.
And just because he is your husband, does not mean he automatically any community property rights to the property. It varies from state to state what CP laws cover.
Well you have been paying the payments on the house with community income right? So yes he does have the right to half of the increase in equity since you married him.
However the housing market it not all that good is it? How long were you married to him? How much equity do you think is in the house now? There might now be any regardless of how much you have paid into it.
No, he barely made enough money to help me pay OUR bills. My parents house was my debt and I paid it.
We were together for 18 months but ONLY legally married for 6 months and 4 days before I asked him to leave.
I still owe $136K and if the house was appraised in todays market, it would probably only be worth around $140K IF that!
Sorry you're going through this, but he is truly showing who he really is. And he's a POS.
I really hope it is a bluff! My parents have been through enough!
He is a POS! But Im actually feeling so scared right now to do anything! It seems like the more I try to get away from him the worse he gets with being spiteful!
Talk to a lawyer. I also think think he's bullying you.
If you and your parents were on the title, he would also have to have been named as a tenant in common or joint tenant on the title to have a claim to it.
And just because he is your husband, does not mean he automatically any community property rights to the property. It varies from state to state what CP laws cover.
Yeah, talk to your lawyer.
I sent my old divorce attorney an email tonight. Hopefully he will have good news. STBX's name was never on the title.
my only advice to you is marriage is till death do us part. now you're going through a second divorce. Maybe slow down and see who you are marrying. they maybe A holes but then again your the one picking them. Just remember even in baseball 3 strikes and your out so try to make the next one the real thing. or you'll be like larry king. btw he is an A hole if he fights you for thaty house and good to get rid of him just chose wiser
my only advice to you is marriage is till death do us part. now you're going through a second divorce. Maybe slow down and see who you are marrying. they maybe A holes but then again your the one picking them. Just remember even in baseball 3 strikes and your out so try to make the next one the real thing. or you'll be like larry king. btw he is an A hole if he fights you for thaty house and good to get rid of him just chose wiser
I completely agree with you that this lies with me. I am in counseling and facing co-dependency issues to stop this pattern from happening.
I did wait 3 years to get involved at all in a new relationship after my 1st divorce, and swore that I woudl not get married again, but went against what I said and wound up with this POS!
Don't answer his text. He's using anything and everything to get to you and to see you. The more you pull away, HE WILL GET ANGRY and want to control the situation.
Just don't answer. if he shows up, don't answer. You have the power. If he throws a fit, call the cops.
[QUOTE=that_girl;653495]Don't answer his text. He's using anything and everything to get to you and to see you. The more you pull away, HE WILL GET ANGRY and want to control the situation.
Just don't answer. if he shows up, don't answer. You have the power. If he throws a fit, call the cops.[/QUOT
:/ ........ Hang in there Philly, your doing the right thing. You have to persevere through this to once again find the happiness and light at the end of the tunnel. It's there for you. And yes, do not reply to text, threats or anything else. Don't give him the power. No contact as much as possible. Good luck Posted via Mobile Device
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