Originally Posted by valueadded
Your right I got sick last year and didn't get any support. Trying to talk about anything of significance he isn't interested. Life is all about him.
I understand and sympathize with your situation. Yes, it is difficult to walk away from a marriage in which you have invested your energy and time. But look at hubs: he isn't investing in anything other than getting high on booze.
I was in the E.R. three times in '07, and each time I was there alone. The paramedics took me to the hospital in the ambulance, and I was on my own from there. Hubs didn't want his 9 a.m. "happy hour" disturbed to be bothered with my issues.
And, yes, an alkie can charm you right back into the relationship and keep you stuck ... until you just realize you are as sick as they addict for staying stuck.
To this day, my estranged husband still tries to manipulate me via email. Yeah, like I want a long-distance email relationship. Get a grip! There is something about keeping the enabler hooked. He!!, my husband sent me an email a month ago about a resentment from five years ago that I never even knew he had!
See, that is what gets my attention when I hear anyone call an alcoholic "functional." Yes, they wipe their a$$, they bring home a paycheck, they change the oil in the car, blah, blah, blah. But they are not a healthy "functioning" person by any stretch of the word.
Self-centered, self-serving, and manipulative. Or, as they say in A.A., "a raging egomaniac with a massive inferiority complex."
I hope you can get out of there sooner rather than later. The role model your husband is for your kids stinks. Unfortunately, kids raised in a home with an addict, usually end up becoming one or marrying one.
You deserve a better life. Really.