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post #31 of 46 (permalink) Old 02-18-2013, 08:42 AM
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Hello,

I just wanted to answer because I too had a similar obsession. I still actually do from time to time but a lot less nowadays. My own woman has large breasts you would think that would "cure" some unsatisfaction? it doesn't. I believe that from my standpoint, it is no big deal, because to me it is only fantasy. I wouldn't actually cheat on my girl for another women even if she had big breats or whatever, it's just some lust I have in my mind. I actually believe I am a very balanced person. Fantasy is ok, everyone has that within. As long as realizing your fantasies hurts no one, that too is ok. But he actually be like me and not want to realize anything, just feed that lust a little. But you can't be mad at him for having fantasies. That is 100% human.

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post #32 of 46 (permalink) Old 02-18-2013, 11:50 PM
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You should talk a lot. It is important for him to reflect about his actions and know the reasons why he is attracted to pornography.

Please, understand, that this is not about you! Those ladies he is watching are not what it seems. I mean, they turn him on, but there is something else, deeper, that pushing him into such actions.

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You should talk a lot. It is important for him to reflect about his actions and know the reasons why he is attracted to pornography.

Please, understand, that this is not about you! Those ladies he is watching are not what it seems. I mean, they turn him on, but there is something else, deeper, that pushing him into such actions.

Talk, talk, talk...
It's been way too long since the last post to this thread, but I'm new and have been checking out the site when I came across this thread. Ignis has a strong point - when there is an obsession with porn in whatever form, a deeper reason exists. It's time to hash things out.

Not to sound mean, but Betrayed has had a taste of how smaller breasted women feel when their guys always look at well, all big breasted women.

While a lot of people are justifying the behavior and saying that, well, this is just what guys do, I'm going to say that there's a limit to everything. It's okay to obsess with giant tits and check out porn sites once in a while, but when it gets to the point that your partner is uncomfortable or unhappy with it, then you have a problem and potentially your relationship is on the line. If you're single - knock yourself out on internet porn sites or whatever, but being married means that both sides might have to make sacrifices for the sake of something greater.

It's easy to brush off someone's concerns with a simple, "that's the way it is," but if there's something deeper or more complicated within their relationship that we don't know about, then we don't have the right to take it so lightly.

Maybe it's as simple as Betrayed (and many women like her) having to come to terms with the fact that her husband likes to look at giant tits. Hand-in-hand, her husband might need to tone down the ogling of the porn sites and start paying more attention to what his in-the-flesh, loving wife has to offer him -contact with *gasp* real boobs.

I'm sure there are guys out there whose egos would be mighty bruised if their significant other was obsessing with huge dongs on hundreds of websites, especially if their package is smaller in comparison. They might be wondering why she's so interested, and worrying if they've got what it takes to please her. Some guys won't give a damn, as long as they can still get some at the end of the day. Man or woman, it can go both ways.
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post #34 of 46 (permalink) Old 03-13-2014, 09:22 AM
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You raise a number of good points. It is also worth considering that women will look at mens' browsing history occasionally.

I would say that it is not as though he was doing so in the living room, it was discreetly on his mobile phone, but I would assume my wife would check that.

Possibly, a comparison other than women looking at endless pictures of huge dongs would be keeping tabs on your Possibles list of men on Facebook. It is actually slightly ****ty behaviour and not really OK, but women do it. As long as it is discreet, looking the other way is not a bad policy.
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This whole section is about addiction.

A guy looking at "dirty pictures" doesn't have a problem unless it's interfering with his family, job, finances, or social life. It doesn't sound like any of that is happening here... on his end.

However, it sounds like the real problem is that this woman can't stop thinking about this, and it is seriously affecting her, and her family, by extension.

It sounds like even if the guy stopped, or even had his eyes poked out, the woman would STILL have a problem with something he can't even do. She needs some kind of intensive therapy. I hope she's gotten better since this all was posted.
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you are all right in your comments that i probably came on here to get justification for how i feel. i don't get it and yes, i am completely utterly traumatized. i literally think about it all day, go to sleep thinking about it, dream about it, wake up in the middle of the night thinking about it, first thing i think in the morning.. i see huge breasts in my mind all the time now and i think am becoming obsessed with going online myself now to look at them and tell myself i'm not as attractive to him as all the women he looks at with huge boobs. every time we are intimate all i can think is he's probably wishing my boobs were like some of the ones he has been looking at online. it has completely just turned my whole sense of reality upside down. i feel like i'm going into depression and i am trying to keep up a good front for him because after letting him know for a few days how i was feeling, i felt like there's no sense in brining it up anyomore so he thinks everything is back to normal and fine, but it's totally not fine in my mind. i feel like things will never be the same between us. to top this off, i'm almost 3 months pregnant with our first child and now every day am thinking about how gross my body is going to be and he will be even less attracted to me once i have saggy lifeless breasts and stretch marks. i never had these thought before, i just thought he loved my body and would hopefully be ok with the changes but now i feel like i am not even happy about being pregnant any more. i'm just obsessing about wanting to have the perfect body for him and have it look like these women online that he likes. you could say i went from feeling very secure in his feelings about me to being completely insecure and thinking he probably has to fantasize about huge boobs just to be intimate with me. i know i'm driving myself crazy but i can't stop these thoughts! i am starting to feel like what else is he doing that i dont know about? has he been going to strip clubs after work or looking for other women. i dont think most people out there reading this grasp the amount of mental devastation this has caused.
Fantasy or fetish is about play, something that is temporary and many times transitory. As adults, we separate our fantasy from reality (or you find yourself in a padded cell). Your DH may want to engage this fantasy with you, but he does not want this to extend into reality (as mentioned by others).

It's easy to allow your mind to wonder about a partner's motives. A female partner once refused to go clean shaven because she intimated her partner wanted a little girl. The partner responded he just didn't like getting hair in his mouth. Be gentle with yourself and your DH ... play is just that ... play. Kindest regards-

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Unfortunately, the OP is from 2012. Her last post on here was still upset and angry. I hope she has more perspective now.
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thanks for the reply. I completely get what you're saying. and honestly, if he had just been looking at random porn sites, i probably wouldn't have cared. it's just the fact that ALL the sites he went to were strictly of women with enormous breasts. maybe if there had been a little variety in what he was looking at it wouldnt have been so hurtful. its just the fact that now i know that's his "thing" which i dont have. its hard to accept..
A D cup is far from small. Remember that when you feel insecure. If you had small breasts, I could understand why your husband's porn habits would be upsetting. Since this is not the case, I believe that you are overreacting.

Sometimes I love looking at pictures of very muscular men. It doesn't mean that I am not attracted to my husband.
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Huge breast are awesome i love them especially for BBW.
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Hello,

I just wanted to answer because I too had a similar obsession. I still actually do from time to time but a lot less nowadays. My own woman has large breasts you would think that would "cure" some unsatisfaction? it doesn't. I believe that from my standpoint, it is no big deal, because to me it is only fantasy. I wouldn't actually cheat on my girl for another women even if she had big breats or whatever, it's just some lust I have in my mind. I actually believe I am a very balanced person. Fantasy is ok, everyone has that within. As long as realizing your fantasies hurts no one, that too is ok. But he actually be like me and not want to realize anything, just feed that lust a little. But you can't be mad at him for having fantasies. That is 100% human.

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Yea. He is a jerk.

Just walk around topless every chance you get and see how he
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I go through whole thread and I want to know how its going? What about your husband? Still looking for that big breasts?
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I agree with most everything above. My wife felt similar for a while. I kept telling her "I' with you!" She finally dealt with it somehow. It was a wonderful marriage, and she was a wonderful wife. We were together practically 24/7. She passed away a while back. I miss her dearly. And I still love big boobs. Your reality is he loved you enough to marry you. Many men just never marry and never commit. Good luck!
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I would like to hear from anyone out there who can tell me if this is normal guy behavior, or if i should be worried.
I am a guy who "likes" large breasts, not HUGE ones, but I would NEVER let that interest ruin my relationship with my modestly built wife because the love and respect we share over-rides anything about body styles/shapes.
I see you as dealing with two separate issues here.
1. Your own insecurity and jealousy of other women's "stuff"....
2. The very bad and offensive behavior of your husband.
Of the two, the easiest one to fix is your own bad and inadequate self esteem and self worth by just working on a few self esteem and self respect techniques so google: self esteem and get started fixing yours.
Next, your husband's behavior.
If he is blatantly disrespectful of you by drooling over the parts of other women and neglecting you, that is something you will need to confront. If he OCCASIONALLY looks at other women's parts but gives you adequate attention, then it's just a normal male thing to notice and appreciate what ALL women have.
It's a matter of degree or respect and my wife and I worked it out so that we could "look at" other people down at the beach, etc. WITHOUT becoming angry, frightened or hysterical - so long as we did this "looking" with respectful moderation. It would be healthy if he has pictures, etc. that are NOT secrets from you and allows you to check out what he is looking at and why - not to monitor him but to let it be openly available to both of you. Keeping secrets in a relationship is DEADLY!

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