Re: Not an alcoholic but
Funny I stumbled on this thread. I just packed all my alcohol in my car to leave in the stock room at work.
Before divorce started I used to put kids to bed and get out ****tail book and make a new ****tail every night (not every night but 4-5 nights a week)
It was fun and most of the time I was in bed by 11 and not really drunk. Wife never indicated it was an issue with her. On occasion I would go overboard and she'd say "you are drunk, leave me alone" but it was mostly in good humor. Alcohol not issue with divorce. Or if it was nobody ever brought the subject up.
Since starting divorce process and moving into my own house I am uncomfortable with my habits.
On date nights I usually have a drinks. If we stay in and cook, we drink. Gf isn't raging drunk but isn't the best influence either. But I'm not blaming her, it is just hard to not have one with it's sitting there open on the table.
On nights I have kids I will wait until everyone is home and tucked in or at least homework is done and baths are done. Never drink knowing I have to pick up kids.
On home alone nights it starts earlier. I will sit in chair in front of TV or play on computer and have too many. It also causes me to over eat and I then don't do quality things like exercise or read.
It really messes up my sleep. Drinking and sleeping like crap 4-5 nights a week is bad.
I can go several nights without as long as I keep busy or have entertainment.
I'm going to try 90 days of no alcohol. Weather is nice, I can walk around the block a few times to replace drinking on most nights. There are a few situations I will avoid and a few people I will tell what I am doing for a bit of support.