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post #76 of 129 (permalink) Old 04-21-2013, 10:56 PM Thread Starter
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Between getting off of work on Friday and tonight. How many drinks did you have?
five drinks. A mix of different kinds.
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Is that typical?
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five drinks. A mix of different kinds.
Okay, here's the deal. You like to drink. You want to drink. And you think that it's okay to drink as long as you do it responsibly. The rule of thumb is this (it comes from the Bible, actually):

"You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Evil is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master." Genesis 4:7

This is what God said to Cain's heart. He was jealous of his brother Abel and hated him. Even after these wise words, Cain couldn't subdue his rage and ended up murdering his brother. This verse in the Bible has a lot of wisdom in it, and applies to just about every area of someone's life when it comes to moving down a path that is dangerous.
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Is that typical?
For a weekend, that seems normal to me.

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Okay, here's the deal. You like to drink. You want to drink. And you think that it's okay to drink as long as you do it responsibly. The rule of thumb is this (it comes from the Bible, actually):

"You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Evil is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master." Genesis 4:7

This is what God said to Cain's heart. He was jealous of his brother Abel and hated him. Even after these wise words, Cain couldn't subdue his rage and ended up murdering his brother. This verse in the Bible has a lot of wisdom in it, and applies to just about every area of someone's life when it comes to moving down a path that is dangerous.
That sounds good to me.
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Had some fun this weekend. Went out to eat and had some drinks out as well as buying some new bottles for the house. Enjoyed the weekend, and now a nice stiff drink or two makes Monday evening even more enjoyable.
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I don't think you have a problem at five drinks for a weekend. Five in an hour for hours.... then you might come back for help.
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"It's 5o'clock somewhere" do you think that was first said by someone who wanted to get divorced? LOL, I crack myself up.
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There is a difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependance, you likely fall into one of those categories. Google it to see the difference. You may not be a full blown alcoholic but sounds like there could be a drinking issue on the rise. Wanting it, may be worse than needing it. Good luck.
Hi gbrad, your situation may not be mine, but I had similar for about 20 years. It could feel fine now but down the road may be a different thing.

Read my posts if you will. I am (was) alcohol dependant, not a full blown alcoholic but that really is not the point. Does it affect family and friends, does it hurt loved ones. I'm in AA now and have not had the need (won't say desire) to drink in a week

If not, no problem, drink later, drink less. Just watch out it does not become a problem which creeps up on you when you are not looking.
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Over the past few months I know I have had times where I have struggled with this one. I have shown myself the ability to go a few days without a drink at all and then some days where I only have one drink. But for much of the time it is 2 or 3 drinks a day/night. For the past month I have been being much healthier in my diet. With that I have been able to cut the drinking down some as well.
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Over the past few months I know I have had times where I have struggled with this one. I have shown myself the ability to go a few days without a drink at all and then some days where I only have one drink. But for much of the time it is 2 or 3 drinks a day/night. For the past month I have been being much healthier in my diet. With that I have been able to cut the drinking down some as well.
gbrad...hi. If I am hearing you, you don't think you are alcohol dependent (yet), you are doing some secretive drinking, and would like to reduce the amount you're drinking and (go back?) to a more moderate type of drinking?

If so...I invite you to look into The Sinclair Method. This involves a medication called Naltrexone (or Nalmefene, if you prefer). In a nutshell, its a form of pharmocological extinction that requires *only* that you take one 50 mg pill an hour before you drink, anytime you are going to drink. Thats it. One pill an hour before. You can get a script from your doctor for the med... but if you prefer not to have it on your medical records, you can also order it online.

It has a very good success rate. Americans are extremely entrenched in the 12 step model as being the only way to deal with drinking. No offense to the many wonderful people AA has helped, no offense to the program itself. But its not the only way. (There is also Moderation Management, HARM reduction, Rational Recovery, etc) Abstinence isn't the answer for everyone. Only you can say.

The Sinclair Method has successfully helped people go back to a time before they became concerned and to drink less overall, less per session and remove cravings. Its also helped those who wished to become abstinent..to do so.

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Have not been on the site in many months, but thought I should check in and say a few things. Life has taken many turns, some for the better ans some for the worse in recent months. I don't know if I am an alcoholic, but I do know that I drink way too much. It is difficult, I know that it has an effect on my day to day life at times now. I just keep saying that when things turn around, I wont need to drink as much, but things have not turned around and I keep drinking now.
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If you do not want to quit something that concerns you....you have a drinking problem. It will escalate. Drinking because you are lonely or bored may be covering up some issues with you.
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Have not been on the site in many months, but thought I should check in and say a few things. Life has taken many turns, some for the better ans some for the worse in recent months. I don't know if I am an alcoholic, but I do know that I drink way too much. It is difficult, I know that it has an effect on my day to day life at times now. I just keep saying that when things turn around, I wont need to drink as much, but things have not turned around and I keep drinking now.
This is what I always used to say.....I went from a happy social drinker to drinking alone, then it got worse as I tried to bury issues with it. Now I'm free of it...no more. Anything I worry about or question must be a problem so it has to be resolved. Therapy helps figure out what is lacking that you want to drink even when it makes you concerned.
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If you do not want to quit something that concerns you....you have a drinking problem. It will escalate. Drinking because you are lonely or bored may be covering up some issues with you.
Thought I would check back in. I recognize that I have a drinking problem. I know that I drink too much. I have days where I drink too much, get little sleep, feel like crap afterwards, and then say I won't drink for the next couple days to let my body recover. But it doesn't happen. I will go the next day with either having nothing or only drink. Then the following day my body seems to have mostly recovered and its back to drinking more. Even when I say I want to drink less or have nothing to drink for a few days, I don't do it. The only time I go more than 1 day without a drink is when I am sick (from something other than the drinking). I really do want to drink less, I just don't know how to make myself do it. I don't want to quit drinking forever, I just want to be able to go back to drinking occasionally instead of everyday.
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Why are you drinking every day? What's wrong with your life? Why do you need to numb yourself to face each evening? Any relatives with drinking problems?

Didn't read your entire thread so you may have covered this already.

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