Relationships and AddictionWhether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, or anything else, addictions can be detrimental to the health of a relationship.
Sorry if I missed the answer to this question, but have you ever smoked pot yourself? Pot is probably the safest substance you can "abuse". My wife and I are pretty heavy drinkers. If all we did was smoke pot, I am sure we would have a better relationship.
I can understand how being around someone who is "high" might be irritating to you, but you exhibiting pressure to discontinue his pot use is probably just as annoying (being why he distances himself when he is high).
I am a pot smoker, and a recovering addict to other drugs. I have felt the fun, pain, and destruction of drugs. My wife and I are megatons better than we used to be. We are not perfect, but we try to be the best we can be. It is really really f-ing hard to keep on a straight path. But we are doing it!
What i am getting at here is, be thankful for what you have. Praise your husband for what he does do that makes you happy. If he doesnt make you happy, there are more problems here than pot smoking. Anyways, Its not hard to lose yourself into drug abuse, but pot really wont take someone very deep. In fact, it wouldnt scar you for life if you enjoyed it WITH him from time to time. All i know is if he loves smoking pot, and he loves you, a pot heads favorite thing in the world is to get high with the one they love most.... then do tha necked dance lol >
I just wanted you to hear it from an actual pot head. See, we dont think its that big of a deal. The people that DO think its a big deal, probably havent spent much time smokin it. It makes boring activities more fun, it makes fun activities even FUNNER. We dont get high to offend people, we do it cuz its neat. Thats a very simple concept.
ALSO: Please people, don't call the police on our own children. What the hell is wrong with you? And just for weed? Its called parenting. Why would you call the police to parent your children?
Whatever you do, is your own business, but it isn't cool to be encouraging drug use. Harmful or harmless isn't the point, as it is still illegal in most states in this country.
__________________ Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving: it consists in professing to believe what one does not believe. — Thomas Paine (1737-1809), American revolutionary, political philosopher & writer.
You are not a recovering addict if you still drink and smoke pot. Pot is illegal. Pot alone will get your kids taken away. It is pathetic to suggest she join in. If it is a problem for her then that is enough. Stop making light of it just because you want to stay numb all the time. As a person who has been affected by a family members drug abuse I can tell you that you do not know what you are talking about.
i came to this forum to talk to people for support and to support other people in their fight against abusing drugs. i thought id give my opinion here for some reason. I should be using my time on this forum to get support and to support other junkies like myself.
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We are talking about weed here, do some research. Guess what? Doesnt make u crazy like previously believed back in the 30's. Anywho, i was just giving my honest opinion. Maybe you folks have so many problems with your husbands because you dont listen. Try to relate. I read these ignorant words on here, makes me want to get high myself lol. Life isnt as easy for everyone as it is for you "sober" people. If a little pot is being smoked, so what? Im not doing oxy anymore, and ive never smoked crack! I think im doing quite well. People make mistakes, people do things you wont agree with, but if your husband is just smoking weed, all im saying is he could be smoking crack. Even a drunk is worse than a pothead.
sorry im just trying to get the guy a break. pot is a great way to relieve stress, if shes stressing out, seems natural to me. i live different than you. just like gays live different than me lol (jk) Different strokes for different folks. Love us for who we are or leave us.
Sorry for your hardships but dont ever compare a hard working weed smoking american to a worthless cocaine smoking crackhead and act like you are all the sudden some specialist for wives whos husbands smoke the herb, a plant. If you think smoking weed gets ur kids taken away, ask a police officer. ur wrong. driving over the speed limit is illegal in all states, when is the last time you sped? In my city, pot is a ticket, you pay a fine, just like a traffic ticket. Get with the times, our government is.
good luck to you, original poster. <3 as for everyone else, f-off. lol and i can say that cuz im high and i Do NoT CaRE! LoL JeaLouS? Yes.
Real funny. Where I am it can get your kids taken away. I have seen it. Nothing but pot. You think that you are giving support against drug abuse by saying she should join in the abuse. My husband wasn't just a pot smoker. He done everything with the exception of shooting up and has been a true recovering addict for 5 years. He does not drink either because alcohol even though is legal is still a mild altering drug. He gives true support for the addicts who still suffer and would never suggest that anyone join in or give an addict a break. No pot can't kill you but addiction can. Some people can just smoke pot and some people can't. They need more. Pot is a gateway drug and can lead to other drugs. You do your research. You are not on the receiving end so you do not know how it feels for the loved ones.
Oh oh, here comes the stoner defense cavalry under a new user name. Time to pull the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches break out the Zeppelin albums and enjoy the show........
Oh oh, here comes the stoner defense cavalry under a new user name. Time to pull the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches break out the Zeppelin albums and enjoy the show........
Still cant seem to let it go can ya martino. I think maybe it's time to pray for some understanding.
The last couple of yearsmy husband has been on pot. I think he is doing something else with it because he doesn't eat and is so skinny. Marijuana doesn't do that to you. This addiction is only a added mixture of failure because I have been unhappy for years. I have been married for 16 years and I feel as though I have wasted the last 16 years of my life with him. He has become so lazy and doesn't care about his personal hygiene. The only reason that I am still with him is because I can't afford to be on my own right now but I also know my day is coming
Whatever anyone's thoughts are about the smoking of pot, the effects of THC on the brain, smoke on the lungs, there is one really sobering fact about it.
Buying pot is illegal and because of that anyone purchasing marijuana is no more than three people away from someone who is willing to kill or steal from you to protect his dope dealing business.
So if this is true, are you willing to have that risk in your life? That of your spouse and family?
Not to mention your stuff... if you have enough of it or are accused of dealing, you can lose your car and your house...
This simply isn't responsible behavior if you have loved ones who depend on you. I don't give a rat's tuchas about pot. But I do care about selfish people putting their family in harm's way.
I think regardless of anyone's opinion on smoking pot is very irrelevant to this discussion. I used to be an everyday smoker, and my wife didn't care. My son was born and I became a social smoker. After a while of being a social smoker I just kinda stopped. It had nothing to do with my wife or family, but me.
That being said, I don't really care who smokes as long as no one is getting hurt. The OP is obviously hurt by him smoking. Regardless of what any of us think about pot, it's not ok for him to disregard his wife's feelings on this matter. If he can't comprimise, then I think an ultimatum should be given. You either keep your word and promises, or I am leaving. It has a lot less to do with the pot, this is more about him not keeping his word regarding the matter. He needs to keep his word. Hard working pot heads are one thing. He is just a pot head that wont keep his end of a promise. That is not a good husband or a good man...
If he wants to be a pot head, he needs to let his wife go so she can be with someone who respects her enough to keep promises, and he can find a partner that is either ok with his lifestyle, or is a smoker herself.
My husband is a recovering drug addict. He has been clean for 5 years. He did not just smoke pot. He used anything he could get his hands on. If I could have made him quit he would have quit a long time ago. I prayed, begged, yelled, fussed, left him a few times, filed for divorce (dropped it later), turned him in to the police and loads of other really stupid things. I tried everything in my power to make him do what I wanted him to do. Nothing worked because he was not willing. He did not want to quit and until an addict is ready it is not going to happen. He was in rehab four different times but was there for me and the kids not for himself. He was trying to get back in the house. His last run was a week long bing and was having a crack induced stroke. I took him to the hospital were he stayed a week then to a rehab hospital for another 4 weeks. It took him almost losing his life to get enough. I had to learn to let him go and be happy with me whether he was using or not. I could only control me. No matter what you do to try to get him to stop he is not going to until he is ready. I hate giving this advise because I know it is the hardest advise to take.
this is the best answer i have heard tonight your right and its hard being right sometimes..never heard of a crack stroke....love to know the signs of that..you should be proud of yourself for knowing what to do and when to do it..its the hardest part of life i know..good luck and be happy
that is not always the truth..people dont go crazy over pot like that other drugs yes i would say that is the truth yes alot of people still smoke it all the time but it could be alot worst pot is illegal yes but i believe your statement is out of control compared to whats out there these days..look at all the kids going to pharm parties..and their getting it from parents and grandparents so r u the drug dealer now..
Re: Addicted husband..what to do? Pot
Re: Addicted husband..what to do? Pot
Re: Addicted husband..what to do? Pot
