Join Date: May 2013
Location: The Avitar is from Yosemite
Re: christian, virgin, engaged, nonplussed about sex
The OP originally said she was really sexually attracted to her fiancé for two years but managed to preserver her virginity, and then there was a dark time in the relationship where he criticized her. At that point her feelings changed from attraction to not wanting anything to do with him. Intellectually she could look at him four years into the relationship and say he would make a good husband because he had lots of good qualities going for him. Emotionally, however, she still remembers the dark time and so could feel no emotional or physical attraction towards him. Who knows if at some time in the future he might revert to the dark time behavior; however, the OP’s emotional intelligence tells her to forget him because that is likely to happen. I think she was very wise to preserve her virginity, as sex would have clouded her emotional ability to figure this guy out. Because of this experience, I think the OP is likely to preserve her virginity in future relationships until she gets married. She also has religious reasons to remain virgin. If she dates guys that also are religious, they will understand her belief about virginity.