I can't believe some of you people are telling her to get divorced when her husband has changed his behavior. Do you know how many women only wish their husband would do that for them? Your husband obviously loves you if he made this 180 for you. He's not abusing you by saying you should forgive him because it says so in the bible, he is scared that you will leave him and doing everything he can to prevent that. I do not get where he said you are not a Christian. He is just trying to save his marriage. Count yourself lucky. Even in my husband's 180 from abuse he didn't do THAT much for me, like getting super involved in the bible.
As long as the abuse has stopped, you have NO reason to leave. You are listening to the devil. God would never tell you to get divorced when He hates divorce. You say that He also hates to see His child get treated that way. Guess what? He stopped it. He changed your husband's heart. He did His part. You do yours and fix your marriage instead of checking out of it when there is no reason anymore. Furthermore, the Word says that infidelity is the ONLY out for a marriage. Jesus said, "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." (Matt. 19:9). The spirit will NEVER go against the Word. Remember that.
You promised til death do you part. Honor your vows. Your husband is honoring his.
I am so tired of people advising others to get divorced on here for reasons other than adultery. I wonder how many marriages you guys have aided in ruining. I thought this site was about keeping marriages together and contributing to healthy ones. Divorce is the furthest thing from healthy. It's the most destructive thing one can do.
OP, as I mentioned above, I went through the same thing. My H was abusive. I told him I was done. He changed his ways right away and said he would do anything for his marriage. He didn't realize what he was doing until I made a HUGE deal about it. It opened his eyes when I told him I was almost done. When he changed, I was long gone for a while. I considered leaving him anyway. Why did he deserve me after that? Well, I stayed anyway and honored my vows. I ended up falling back in love with him, and now coupled with him trying, we've never been closer and more in love. Yeah, you may get hurt again, and you probably will. No one is perfect. You risk your heart in marriage. You ALWAYS offer your heart to your husband (when he has stopped the abuse.) You always risk it for him. You promised to in your vows. That's what marriage is all about, putting them above your fears.
Since you said you are a Christian, I would STRONGLY urge you to listen to these sermons. If you want to understand marriage and God's will for you as a bride, I challenge you to listen to these four sermons. Listen to one each day this week. Before you do, pray that God would open your heart and mind and give you the ears to hear and discern His will. Reading or watching these will make it very difficult to not understand what you should do and what your role is as a bride who claims to follow Jesus.
So these should be huge resources for you. Be wise and make good use of them, okay? Staying Married Is Not About Staying in Love, Part 1 | Desiring God Staying Married Is Not About Staying in Love, Part 2 | Desiring God What God Has Joined Together, Let Not Man Separate, Part 1 | Desiring God What God Has Joined Together, Let Not Man Separate, Part 2 | Desiring God