I think it is the black & white mentality , the Us vs. them mentality of many christians that causes this - and ultimitely the guilty feelings they lay at our feet when we disagree or want to enjoy something they condemn or feel is wrong.
Many Liberal Christians do NOT take the Bible as infallable. Not sure where you stand on this, but generally the Conservatives DO, therein lies the problem. You are left questioning your own desires /wants - just because your husband sees them "too worldly" - "too fleshly" according to the scriptures & his interpretation.
I can relate to how you feel but not because I live with a spouse who does this to me. I more so live with an older son who is very spiritual , and I often WANT to corrupt him a little cause I find him bashing the world in ways that I do not find harmful in any way, shape or form -nor do I feel a Loving God is against all that he claims. I often tell him if he turns into a Fundamentalist, I will kick him out of my house. We laugh about it.
I am personally a black sheep myself, I still attend a very conservative Church on occasion - just cause I have friends there & they have an awesome program for the kids. But I know I would much more "fit in" with a Liberal minded Christian Church than where I am. Because of their separation mentality, I no longer even consider myself a Christian at all , the word itself invites much Judgement when conservatives want to look at your life. I fall miserably short, according to their decrees on what constitutes a REAL Christian.
But I love my life , I believe in the Golden Rule- that God judges us by HOW we treat others, isn't that what it really comes down too - Shouldnt it - no matter our beliefs -but how we treat our fellow man ? I have always felt Liberals care more about THIS part of religion, whereas Conservatives expect such Holiness , some are SO heavenly minded that, they tend to overlook the mercy & trample it many times. Tolerance vanished.
It really is a shame your husband is doing this to you, maybe he does not realize. He is probably more thinking of what His HOLY God expects from us, than how he is treating his fellow spouse. Please talk to him, I am sure he would not want to push you away from your beliefs or hear you are feeling them as more of a burden -because of his treatment towards you.
You did say he is not as bad as he used to be.
A blessing there.
Moderation is the key in all things: not all Republicans are right, not all Democrats, not all Liberals , nor all conservatives, Much goodness can come from seeing another's side, if we just listen and observe, and not feel we have ALL the answers all of the time. Pray your husband gets ahold of this truth.