Do you hide your sins (mistakes, shortcomings)?
Do you feel like you need to talk about them, in an effort to help other people avoid making the same mistakes?
Have people held your sin against you once they found out, or have you found people tell you things about themselves that you never would have suspected?
Has it been healing for you?
I am WHO I AM.. I don't try to hide my shortcomings from many to appear this perfect woman to others... I believe in showing some vulnerabilities...our weaknesses, that THIS allows others to feel comfortable with us ENOUGH to open up themselves.... Plus if we are not who we REALLY are but wearing a mask ... so to speak....then how is there genuine "Belonging" or acceptance in that.. it's a facade...
Not that we go up to people and say - I did this , this & this.. but if the conversation carries to such a direction & it feels appropriate to ....to not fear speaking who are are, where we have been...what lessons we have learned along our journey.
If people don't like the real us... they can go fly a kite... others will.. this really is my attitude....even if I may get hurt along the way... why should I care, because would I really LIKE that person who had their nose in the air rejecting me.. the answer is NO.. I wouldn't!
Our imperfections make us Human, and being human is what allows many to feel comfortable... For instance...it's like this comparison.... stepping in the doors to an immaculate house....(my Grandmother was like this).. so darn clean you could eat off the floor, but somehow it made you nervous ...what if you put your shoes in the wrong place, didn't put the dishes in the sink the right way, spilled something on that brand new couch ...
You just feel more "at home
" when you go to the house - a little more disheveled...seems the laughter comes a little easier...the joking a little louder, you can put your feet up.. it's more comfortable!
How do you deal with shame?
Can I Brene Brown you to death here...you know I already recommend that wonderful book of hers... She is known as the Shame Researcher.. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are: