Actually, I meant and further explained that he was probably treated poorly by her family. Not sure if I explained that well. I never thought he would be treated well by her family.
No, that's what I meant when I said I didn't understand why He would want the rapist to marry the victim. Why would that be any good for the woman/wife/rape victim?
I know, like I said, which I don't think was clear, her family would probably treat him with the disrespect and dishonor he deserves, making him a servant to the family and their daughter. However, I mentioned that might lead to abuse or adultery, which would get her away from her rapist/husband. Maybe that clears it up a little? Seems like you thought the woman's rapist/husband would be treated well. Not sure if that was because of the emoticon I used or not, but I meant the victim/woman's family would make her husband's life miserable. Hope you understand that, now.
Which is why I commented that it seemed like, as long as the victim's family is around, his punishment might be carried out by them in some manner. How does that not punish the victim more, by having her sleep with her rapist? Isn't that a law of marriage? A wife was expected to submit? I mean, seems like a punishment for her.
I'm not sure he should die, since he didn't murder anyone, but I do understand the severity to the families of both betrothed and to the betrothed themselves in dishonor and possible slander. I understand the physical and mental trauma of the rape victim, to some extent. The victim could be ostracized as sometimes happens today. I'm assuming those are the reasons for the death penalty. However, that's neither here nor there. I wonder if that was God's reason or man's? It certainly doesn't seem like something Christ would say when He spoke of forgiveness of sins. Although, the man on the cross hanging next to him, was not freed from his suffering. Only his sins were forgiven. In that case, it was the punishment of Rome and in this rape case above, it was God's chosen people who lived in a country with laws following a religion. So, I'm not so sure they are good comparisons.
The other case we were talking about was if the woman was not betrothed. As I asked above, what in the world could be the reason they should get married?
Thanks for taking the time to explain this. I hope you understand I wasn't condoning rape. That wasn't my intention. I think I wasn't clear.