I should clarify, this wasn't ONE Christian counsellor - it was ALL the Christian counsellors I saw. They didn't want to talk about the issues I was dealing with, ALL they wanted to talk about was religion...and MY SIN!!! One even dismissed it as one of the ways God inflicts the sin of the forefathers onto us! She went on to explain how sin was passed down and the consequences of an ancestor for generations ago could befall me and that was God's PLAN!!! So basically I deserved all that had happened because God wanted it to so who are we to question it! I was abused because Adam and Eve couldn't resist temptation and my closer ancestors (maybe several generations before I even existed) were obviously especially terrible sinners and this was God's punishment and my own sins were probably why this had happened to me too. Gee, thanks! I needed counselling to get over the counselling!
When I complained about it they talked wishy-washy Bible talk and nothing was done...not a thing! They continued to mess up people's minds and are likely still doing it!
However, when I had secular counselling - I have been able to discuss faith if I want to without being told WHAT to believe. I had one who mistakenly assumed I was Muslim and gave me a mini-lecture one session on being a single Muslim woman with a child and gave me a website address for an exclusively Muslim dating company! What???? I complained and she was sacked and I was given someone else. There was no question what she had done was inappropriate and unethical.
I absolutely stand by it that secular counselling has a higher standard of ethics and responsibility to the client. If she wants spiritual guidance she should see her minister, if she wants psychological help to deal with things she should see a secular counsellor, I think she wants both...so see both!
Not a counsellor who happens to be Christian - I'm talking about a 'Christian Counsellor' from a Christian counselling service. I have no idea what religious views most of my secular counsellors have even had - I'm an atheist so religion only really comes up when I'm talking about previous incidents involving the Church and the Bible being used as a weapon against me. An appropriately trained counsellor will be able to deal with spiritual conflict regardless of their personal faith. They keep it to your views, your feelings, your thoughts and don't try to influence your beliefs based on their
interpretation or understanding of the Bible etc.
Note to OP: Just so you realise, we are not arguing between ourselves lol. We are trying to work out, together, and with all our different opinions, what would be the best advice for you and how to help you the best possible way