That is an admirable goal, As'laDain, cutting back on alcohol. I used to like sharing a bottle of wine with dh, but I have problems with my bladder, and I don't want to irritate it.
I hear you on a plan . . . or the lack of it.
I think trying to substitute non-food activities will help me, but I really think it is just keeping my goal in my mind. And being honest with myself about what I am eating.
Tomorrow I am making pasta salad for the boys, but I don't think I will eat it, because if I do, I will put Woodstock and Goddess dressing on, and they are loaded with fat! That is really how I put the 10 lbs on -- too much fat! And it was delicious!
I can't really count on dh for help, because he really doesn't care what I weigh, or not at 140. And to him it is only a health concern, not anything else. I think I would have to get to 160 before he would start mentioning health to me. And I don't plan to let it get that high!
He was surprised when I brought my weight up yesterday; he hadn't noticed. I think it is incredibly obvious.
You know, people don't think of food as an addiction, but treats are, I think. The things that put weight on me, like tahini dressing, or chocolate chips, or almond butter, or avocado, are not essential. I could avoid them. They just make food more fun. And I need to try to lessen my tendency to see food as fun.
Mostly I need something more interesting in my life than fun food.
Thank you for asking that question, and starting this thread. I was not really sure I wanted accountability, but this might be good.