Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Re: I feel like my husband's roommate
There is sin in your husband's life! Make no mistake about it! There is something in his life that is keeping his relationship with you as genuine. It could be pornography, which can desensitize a man. You see, if a man is feeding the lust of his eyes over and over again, than he can look at his beloved bride and compare; which you will never measure up to perfection and Photoshop and the like. That is not reality! It very well could be pornography that keeps your husband from enjoying his relationship with you.
Second, your husband is not leading and loving the way he should be. He is not fulfilling his side of the marriage deal. Love is patient, love is kind, love is unconditional! Your husband need to get right with God and be the husband that he should be to you. If your husband is not right with God, than you can go to the bank that his relationship with you will not be right. And the same goes for you too. If you do not have a relationship with the Lord or you are struggling, than you can be assured that your relationship with your husband will not be the same. I mean, the thought that you are contemplating divorce is not a right mindset to have.
You guys need to get back in marriage counseling so you two can communicate your needs, wants, desires, frustrations, etc. etc. etc. These are not being communicated productively or even at all.