For the most part, I trust the uninhibited anonymous opinions of this forum. I really need to vent about this and please someone tell me if I am in the wrong or if I just need to get over it. I most times feel conflicted inside about hating that they are living and taking over my space; and supporting my H's decision.
A little over two months ago, my H received a text from his ADULT son that he and his GF were being evicted for not paying rent. H ignored the texts initially because his son is known for not wanting to work or be responsible. The son did not text for awhile and it was later discovered he was living with an aunt. About a month ago, the aunt calls stating that she had to go out of town and she did not want him & the GF in the house while she wasn't there. It was supposed to be a few days, but I figured out that she used the 'going out of town' as a way to get him out of her home. Well, he calls dad as he is supposed to....
My H talks with me about the situation. We were both under the impression that the GF was working, but his son was not and we developed a game plan for them based upon her due date. They have until Sept to move out and they would have to pay $500 per month to help out with expenses. As we know, you cannot live anywhere for free. Two weeks after getting settled, the GF lost her job. The first month the rent was due, they were short $200. The son took a temp job but has not gotten paid yet. And it's looking bleak that they will have rent for June.
Which brings me to why I talk & pray & throw my worries on the alter for God to handle. I am attempting to support my H and the family, but it is really challenging when they do not want to support themselves. I ask H daily what is his game plan in the event they cannot pay in June. I ask what should I prepare myself for in the upcoming months. Should I get ready to have a newborn in the house when we have juniors in HS? Should I get in the mindset that perhaps they will be here until we get rid of the house next year when we move into a condo?
Our boys suffer from the added expense of providing meals for 2-3 extra mouths (I'm adding the GF twice cause she is pregnant) and then the increased expenses of maintaining a household... water, laundry, gas, etc. This does not include they want to drive the cars but cannot put fuel in them.
I feel like a wicked witch. I want to be so mean that they want to leave. I want to starve them and not care. I want to hoard my funds for the kids and not worry about them at all. I want to put their stuff on the street to force them to start showing concern for what they will do next. I want to yell as soon as I walk in the door from work and they are hanging out in my kitchen (my relax place). I want to yell when they go in my bedroom and take things out without asking. Arrrggggh, I am angry because they want to feel at home here and I could give two craps about how they feel.
So, I am venting to you all. I am attempting to gather different prospectives about this... I feel horrible, mean, selfish, hurt, undervalued, angry and all out ready for them to go all at the same time.