Bottom line, if you're not understanding the sermons nor getting a blessing from them, then they aren't helping you grow as a Christian. Has your husband even discussed doing some sort of special music at the church you currently attend? Has he even asked about youth leadership, music ministry, etc. at the other church? The one thing I will agree with the inlaws about is that if he is not using his gift, then he is not following God's leading. That doesn't mean going back to the family church, necessarily. It could mean doing any of the things I mentioned above. Truthfully, it sounds like the only reason he went back is because they guilted him into it. If that is the case, then he still is not following God's leading. All I can say is talk to him and explain exactly why it is a problem for you... and pray about it.
The other church is Assembly of God, so when they asked my husband for his Pastor credentials, the showed them a card that was given to him by another Pastor. They let my husband preach one time since our Pastor was going to be out. But after that they didn't ask him anymore. I did church Nursery but then my husband would get upset about sitting in church w/out me. :/ they have youth pastors, etc so I'm guessing they didn't have a spot for my husband, or...they have their reasons. He knows the language barrier is a problem for me, I even told him Mom this, and she said, "When it's the Holy Spirit, you will feel it anyway."
Well, I'm guessing the Holy Spirit isn't present if I'm not feeling it.
So...I pray. I talk to God, I beg him to help me. When I do go to church w/ my hubby I'm miserable. There is no structure, and I don't agree w/ their ways.
For ex: one evening I was visiting and my father in law, pulls out a spiral...he starts going over names and amounts of people who gave tithes and offerings. Like, Ms. Gonzales gave $50, etc. I was appalled!!! I felt so sad for those that were there. How dare he do this!!!!
I've never seen this done in other churches...I feel like offerings are a private thing, not public.
My husband has always been the "its my way or the highway" kinda guy....and these past few years the highway seems to look more appealing to me.
He is so good in other areas....does housework, giving, loving, funny, good father, provider, etc.
but I'm guessing because of his upbringing, he won't cut the cord to his family.