02-11-2011, 01:10 PM
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Seattle, Washington
| | Re: Family against my marriage :(
It makes sense that you are disappointed because you expected your parents to show their support for you and your decisions. It's sad but your parents have their own opinions, just as you do, and while it would be good if they supported your decisions and came to your wedding, it seems that they won't. Maybe it is their way of showing you how strong they feel about their decision, but this is your life and your choice.
So these are my questions and they may seem silly but - Does your BF/fiance treat you right? Do you love him? Do you want to spend your life with him? Can you imagine your life without him?
IF you can't imagine being without him and want to be with him because of who he is and your love for him, having nothing to do with your parents, then your decisions are based on love and not on rebellion of your parents (which is what they might think this is).
Eventually they will get over it and once they meet him and know him, hopefully they will change their minds but sometimes these things take time. Depending on their background, upbringing and opinions, they might see him as someone who is taking you away from them, so they see him as an enemy. I'm sure your family loves you and wants you to be happy, but they might not understand your choices and that's okay. It's your life, live it to the fullest and be happy with your decisions. Everything else will hopefully workout!
Peace and Love,